2 years ago today my husband died......

[a kennedy]

Only had 3 people even say anything to me about it. I miss him so much.

[applegrove]

1. So sorry a kennedy. That is a big loss.

[a kennedy]

5. Thank you......I'm not getting any better at not crying. Can't believe it's been 2 years.

[pat_k]

35. Perhaps too simplistic, but the depth of the pain of a death is a reflection of the...

... magnitude of the joy and love in the lost relationship.

When my partner died in 2011 (Senator here on DU), I did a lot of crying in my car. The episodes became less frequent over the first couple years, but I still get caught by surprise occasionally. I miss the ordinary things the most -- trips to the store, cooking a meal, walking the dog.

When the pain is most acute I remind myself that it wouldn't hurt so damn much if we hadn't felt so deeply connected.

Anyway, sending heart-felt regards and a virtual hug. Anniversaries are hard.

[dweller]

2. I didn't know

My belated sympathies for your loss .





✌🏻

[a kennedy]

8. Thank you.....

Can’t believe it’s been 2 years…..last year I guess I was in some sort of just get by mood, now, I’m still just crying. If I don’t talk about HIM, I’m ok, the minute I say his name bawling just starts.

[Ocelot II]

3. I'm so sorry! I think sometimes people are hesitant to say anything

because they don't want to cause sadness or upset. But it's there anyway, and the remembrance is appreciated. I hope you are holding up OK but it's not something one just gets over in time.

[greatauntoftriplets]

4. My deepest condolences.

[a kennedy]

9. Thank you.......

can’t believe it’s been 2 years. Seems like a couple of months.

[hlthe2b]

6. That really saddens me to hear more did not reach out to you. I was not aware and many likewise

But we are here now, a kennedy and want to let you know we care. May the good memories wash over you today and soften the pain of the loss.

[a kennedy]

10. I know.....I thought my family would at least reach out......my niece did and she was the only family member

that did, no one else. My lunch group, only 1 of a group of 8 ladies said she was thinking of me, and my husband’s daughter, who I love said something too.

[Deuxcents]

7. I'm sorry for the lack of empathy for your painful loss and 2 years is a long time to feel uncared for

I’m not privy to any of the other information but I want to send my condolences and hope there’s more compassion for your loneliness in the future..no one should grieve alone🌺

[a kennedy]

11. 😢 😢 😢 😢 😢

I thought at least a few more in the family would say something.

[Deuxcents]

12. I'm so sorry..sometimes people, including family, think everything is alright but don't check up anyway

If they’re not asking, maybe you could find a gentle way to tell them..hey..I’m here and hurting, please talk with me. ❤️‍🩹

[a kennedy]

14. It's kinda funny.....am leaving 7 nieces and nephews all our $$$$$.......starting to think may-be

I should change that to animals and people that need help........

[Deuxcents]

22. Take some of your money and do something for yourself or donate to charity..so many needs out there

Whatever you do, I hope it gives you some pleasure and get to meet lots of like minded people

[FoxNewsSucks]

33. You should.

I came to that realization 20+ years ago. I don't have a lot, but I'll be damned if it goes to people who vote R. People who act out the pretense of caring or loving, but vote to make me a non-human.

So now what I have that's not already transfer-on-death will go to the two animal shelters here that my dogs came from. They're the only living beings that give a damn about me, and no-kill shelters need all the help they can get.

[dflprincess]

13. I'm so sorry

I hope people didn't mention him because they're don't want to upset you and not because they don't care. Not everyone understands that there is comfort in knowing that others remember our lost loved ones and that we like to to hear them mentioned.

We learn to live with our losses, but we never get over them. Though as Joe Biden has often said, the day comes when their memory brings a smile to our face before it brings a tear to our eye. Wishing you peace.

[a kennedy]

17. Thank you......loved what Joe Biden said.....does help, but still crying thinking about him.

Seeing all his “stuff” and photos of him.

[deRien]

15. It's not uncommon

for family and friends to ‘forget’. My husband died a little over 3 years ago and very rarely does anyone remember- even our kids haven’t said much since the first anniversary of his death. One daughter lives close enough to walk to the cemetery where he is buried and I know she has taken flowers to his grave. I’ve found that how people process grief is different for everyone. I’ve also realized that I will always be processing his death. Be kind to yourself and let your tears flow. Remember the many wonderful memories you have of your shared life together and smile.

[a kennedy]

18. ♥️ ♥️ ♥️

Thank you for this.

[Diamond_Dog]

16. I'm so sorry, a kennedy!

I can’t imagine what you must be going through. Please know many people here at DU care deeply and wish you strength. You are not alone here.

[a kennedy]

19. DU will ALWAYS be my rock.....emotionally AND politically. Thank you.

I do talk to him about tRump, he was not a fan of tRump either, and when I yell at the TV about the orange piece of shit, I know he’s yelling right along with me. Thank you.

[wendyb-NC]

20. I'm so sorry for your loss

That's a heavy loss. I hold you in the light, take care of yourself, be well. Hold him in your heart with love and gratitude.

[Eko]

21. So sorry, big hug to ya.

[cate94]

23. I'm sorry

[OGBuzz]

24. 💔🫂

[Marie Marie]

25. I'm sure that your pain on this anniversary date runs deep.

May that grief soon turn to warm and fond memories. Until then, please accept the biggest hug I can send your way.

[summer_in_TX]

26. I'm so sorry. Sending a virtual hug.

It's a long, hard process.
I have two friends who have led grief groups and others who have gone through them. It may be a place where you can process your grief with others who have experienced it too. If there are any in your area, it would be worth exploring it.

[niyad]

27. Holding you in love and light. Your DU family is here for you. Lean

as hard as you need. Remember, someone is always here.

[surfered]

28. Peace 🙏

[NEOH]

29. Sending Hugs, and Love Your Way!

Sending hugs, and love your way!!

[SheltieLover]

30. Deepest condolences to you

[hamsterjill]

31. I'm so sorry.

I think a lot of people simply don't know what to say, so they err on the side of caution and don't say anything. They fear they will make a survivor sad, or relive an event, etc.

The opposite is certainly what should be. When someone passes, that doesn't mean we stop loving them. There's still an empty chair at the dinner table.

Can you tell us a little bit about your husband? What did he like to do, etc.?

[JoseBalow]

32. I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling

I know what it's like.

[area51]

34. I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband.

Sending you a virtual hug.

[Bayard]

36. I hope you find some peace, a kennedy,

One thing to think about....I come from a large family, that I was very close to, and miss desperately. There's just me and my younger brother now.

I can't tell you any of the dates for when they died, but I still know every one of their birthdays. I celebrate their lives. As Joe Biden has said many times:
"There will come a day, I promise you, when the thought of your son, or daughter, or your wife or your husband, brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye".

We care about you here, and understand your grief. Please talk to us.

[jfz9580m]

37. I am so sorry for your loss a Kennedy

I know how hard it is. Lost my mom in 2021 and am just barely over it.

[Dear_Prudence]

38. Grief is a stinker

I am so sorry that you are not getting the support you need. I recommend gently nudging friends and family to let them know that your heart is hurting. Some will be drowning in their own sorrow and can't help you right now, but some might be willing and able, or even eager, to share memories. I wish you peace.