My older sister died 20 years ago today.

[cksmithy]

Even though she was only four years older than me, she was more like my mother than my our real mother. She was my friend, my confident and always had time to talk to me. She had a very rough childhood (we both did), but she could make me laugh and we could cry together. I miss her so much. We saw The Beatles four times, twice in one day. She was only 59 when she died, complications from her MS medications. When new medications are available and they talk about side effects, including death, it is true. Her doctors said her brain cancer was directly related to her meds.

I just wanted to honor her. I have never started a discussion, always respond to other member's post, but my sister was a wonderful person who I miss and love everyday.

[SheltieLover]

1. Deepest condolences.

[cksmithy]

8. Thank you.

[livetohike]

2. Sending hugs on this sad anniversary date. May the

good memories you have of your sister always make you smile.

[cksmithy]

9. Thank you

[Permanut]

3. Wonderful tribute, thanks..

I lost my older Sister 4 years ago. A lot of great memories.

[cksmithy]

10. Thank you. I always think of my sister, especially when I hear Twist and Shout sung by the Beatles.

[Permanut]

34. That's good for a smile every time.

[brer cat]

4. You have honored your sister's memory very well.

[cksmithy]

11. Thank you.

[KT2000]

5. I hear you

My sister was 8 years older and was a mother to me. She taught me everything. Like you, it is still like it was yesterday, the hole is so deep.
Weren't we so lucky to have had our sisters.

[cksmithy]

7. Yes we were.

[3catwoman3]

6. "I just wanted to honor her." And so you have.

It will soon be 48 years since my brother, younger by 3 years and my only sibling, died much too young at 23 in a scuba diving adventure that went awry. We were very close.

Although the sharpness of the grief softens with time, it’s always there in various ways. I have come to think of it as a biological loneliness.

In memory of our siblings -

[cksmithy]

12. Thank you.

[delisen]

13. Thank you for sharing this. It means so much

I honor your sister. I am glad too know about her life and her caring. I can feel the warmth she brought to you, and to the world.

[cksmithy]

14. Thank you, she did bring warmth to me. I light a candle for her every year, a little warmth.

[calimary]

15. Thank you for this testimonial, cksmithy.

And I’m so sorry for your loss.

I’m sure your sister appreciates this tribute you wrote, wherever her spirit is frolicking now.

[cksmithy]

27. Thank you. She is definitely frolicking, she took her tap shoes with her.

[c-rational]

16. Condolences. Your post was a lovely tribute and I believe your sister is smiling. Best.

[cksmithy]

23. Thank you.

[stage left]

17. I am sorry for your loss.

Your sister sounds like a very special person.

[cksmithy]

24. Thank you. Yes she was. Second born, first daughter, she was a real mom to me and my three younger siblings.

[irisblue]

18. I am so so sorry

[cksmithy]

25. Thank you.

[IbogaProject]

19. So sorry

Thank you for sharing

[cksmithy]

26. Thank you.

[Wild blueberry]

20. To beloved sisters!

One of the best gifts in the universe.
May her memory be a blessing. Thank you for honoring her, and your connection.

[cksmithy]

28. Thank you. Her memory is a blessing I keep close to my heart.

[Clouds Passing]

21. Your beloved sister

cksmithy

[cksmithy]

29. Thank you. I light a candle for her every year too.

[Jarqui]

22. Reminded me of my older sister

who was and thankfully still is more like a mother to all of my siblings.
She sat in the front row of a Beatles concert ... but couldn't hear them.
We did not have as tough a time growing up - though it had its challenges.
But she's always been there for all of us and still is.
We've been very blessed to have such a person our entire lives.

[cksmithy]

30. Thank you. I don't think anybody could hear the Beatles at a Beatles concert, but it was fun and a wonderful memory.

[Fla Dem]

31. I am sorry for your loss, but know, she'll always be with you, in heart and spirit.

I still miss my Mom although it's been almost 50 years since she's been gone, I was in my late 20's. I still talk to her, small comments, not big conversations, but it keeps her alive in my heart.

All the best to you.

[cksmithy]

33. Thank you.

[Grim Chieftain]

32. You were blessed to have a wonderful sister

You both are I my thoughts.

[cksmithy]

35. Thank you.

[MLAA]

36. Sending you hugs and warm thoughts ❤️

[cksmithy]

43. Thank you.

[LoisB]

37. I am sorry for your loss. It sounds as if she was a lovely big sister. The fact

that you posted to honor her says good things about you and her.

[MIButterfly]

38. Dear cksmithy, I am so sorry for your loss.

I extend to you my condolences. Your sister sounds like a beautiful person and she will always be in your heart and memory.

With deepest sympathy and much love,
MIButterfly

[cksmithy]

44. Thank you.

[DeeDeeNY]

39. That is a beautiful tribute

I lost my sister 10 years ago to pancreatic cancer, and I still miss her all the time.

[cksmithy]

45. Thank you.

[applegrove]

40. You were very lucky to have such a sister. She sounds amazing.

So sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing her with us.

[cksmithy]

46. Thank you.

[Dear_Prudence]

41. Thank you

For sharing your warm memories of your sister. My condolences on your loss. 🕯

[cksmithy]

47. Thank you.

[JudyM]

42. Really beautiful tribute to your sister

Touched my heart. I always wished I could've had a sister, and I can imagine how nice it was to have yours from the bit you wrote.

Wishing you lots of warm memories to help you keep feeling her spirit in your heart.

[cksmithy]

48. Thank you.