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ShazzieB

(22,682 posts)
72. Yeah, I can see that she was in a tight spot.
Tue Dec 23, 2025, 03:31 PM
Dec 2025

You raise some very valid points, and I appreciate that. What angered me, though, was that she seemed so ready to disbelieve the girls who reported this. Later in the article, she was quoted as saying, "“Kids lie a lot. They lie about all kinds of things. They blow lots of things out of proportion on a daily basis. In 17 years, they do it all the time. So to my knowledge, at 2 o’clock when I checked again, there were no pictures.”

It made me see red that a female authority figure seemed to be so ready to dismiss a report of this kind of blatant sexual harassment from a ternage girl. I would have been angry if a male authority figure did this, but a woman doing it adds insult to injury, afaic.

What if the principal had at least given that girl the benefit of a doubt? What a difference would have made if she had been at least a little bit sympathetic? I can understand that she may have felt that the actions she could take were limited without the direct evidence of the pictures themselves, but it sounds like she was pretty dismissive about the whole thing.

As I said in my earlier post, the tale of boys offending and girls being (directly or indirectly) punished is an old and sad one. If not for the mindset of "kids (especially girls) always be making stuff up," this situation might have been handled much differently. Even though the principal's hands were probably tied as far as disciplining the boys, expressing empathy instead of skepticism could have gone a long way toward at least making this girl feel like 1) she was being heard, and 2) someone actually gave a damn. But it seems clear that didn't happen, and she was obviously deeply hurt by the principal's lack of concern. That is why she was mad enough to literally punch somebody by tne time she got on the school bus.

Yes, the principal did have to play by the rules to keep her job, and I'm sure this has been no picnic for her. But she could have played by the rules and kept her job while also being supportive and sympathetic to this girl and her friends. This was where she really messed up, imo, and it's why I am still side eyeing her treatment of that girl.

Yes, the culture is stacked against her just like those victimized school girls, and that sucks. There are no real winners here (except maybe the patriarchy), that's for sure.

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They have already become assholes which bodes very badly for the girls and women they'll encounter later in life n/t Stargleamer Dec 2025 #1
Punish the victim sarisataka Dec 2025 #2
True.... but especially if the victim is female. slightlv Dec 2025 #11
they need the files of one dead man because they don't believe 1000 women rampartd Dec 2025 #61
Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2025 #48
Welcome to DU sarisataka Dec 2025 #52
Somehow hopefully she'll get justice somehow electric_blue68 Dec 2025 #3
I hope so. mdbl Dec 2025 #4
Not in Louisiana she won't. Scalded Nun Dec 2025 #47
The odds are unfortunately higher. electric_blue68 Dec 2025 #50
The Sheriff's office arrested rwo of the boys rpannier Dec 2025 #53
She needs to sue. !! SHE Needs. to. sue! Hey girl, please sue the evil people!!!! Sue them now ! ! ! ! !! Trueblue1968 Dec 2025 #55
Yeah, I just saw as a suggestion...tempting... electric_blue68 Dec 2025 #56
If the evidence was on SnapChat and thus gets deleated once viewed, how do lawyers prove her case? Attilatheblond Dec 2025 #64
Ugh, from nasty to horrific! electric_blue68 Dec 2025 #71
Yep Attilatheblond Dec 2025 #73
Geeeebz, sigh electric_blue68 Dec 2025 #76
"The girls begged for help, first from a school guidance counselor and then from a sheriff's deputy assigned to their WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2025 #5
Get some AI shots flying around of the Principal and a sheep. Bet he'll believe her then Bengus81 Dec 2025 #9
A pic of the jerk and a boy. niyad Dec 2025 #14
An eye for an eye. Zackzzzz Dec 2025 #35
She... sarisataka Dec 2025 #20
The sheep idea still applies, imho. Volaris Dec 2025 #25
Nope, Dogs, big ones. Trust me on that! Linda ladeewolf Dec 2025 #28
Geez Louise, that makes this even more offensive! ShazzieB Dec 2025 #44
Thank you! That principal is an example of the fact that not all women niyad Dec 2025 #62
Sadly, that female principal probably knew her own job/financial security depends on going along to get along Attilatheblond Dec 2025 #65
Yeah, I can see that she was in a tight spot. ShazzieB Dec 2025 #72
Yeah, I saw red too. And I doubt any one of us females hasn't dealt with that sort of crap if we dared complain Attilatheblond Dec 2025 #74
Social media may have to be banned for minors gulliver Dec 2025 #6
AI makes it much worse, though. highplainsdem Dec 2025 #16
I agree with you, gulliver! slightlv Dec 2025 #17
"And I have to wonder if... maybe things should be denied until they're at least 30." Jedi Guy Dec 2025 #79
I was thinking the other day we should ban smartphones for anyone under 21. Volaris Dec 2025 #26
This Roy Rolling Dec 2025 #7
It's the difference betwen proof and accusation Fullduplexxx Dec 2025 #8
JFC. niyad Dec 2025 #12
Thank you for reposting this one. I was just about to go look for it. niyad Dec 2025 #10
Women apparently are not allowed a voice... NotHardly Dec 2025 #13
This doesn't surprise me 😔 MustLoveBeagles Dec 2025 #15
Honest question - cab67 Dec 2025 #18
I'm sorry you went through that MustLoveBeagles Dec 2025 #29
To this day - cab67 Dec 2025 #42
How Starbeach Dec 2025 #34
If AI was really I... lame54 Dec 2025 #19
This is happening everywhere, at some level. Oneironaut Dec 2025 #21
Elaquently put & sadly true MustLoveBeagles Dec 2025 #31
yup Skittles Dec 2025 #80
... Solly Mack Dec 2025 #22
I suppose girls could also play this game MagickMuffin Dec 2025 #23
Must admit I like this idea. calimary Dec 2025 #45
Yes, and bullies will continue to be bullies until the tables are turned MagickMuffin Dec 2025 #46
This can easily backfire on the girl Farmer-Rick Dec 2025 #68
The excerpt in the OP lacks some important context. Ms. Toad Dec 2025 #24
"The excerpt in the OP lacks some important context." Disaffected Dec 2025 #30
Thanks 👍 MustLoveBeagles Dec 2025 #32
The point of the article is not the ultimate punishment sarisataka Dec 2025 #38
The selective excerpt gave the impression the boys got off scott free, and the girl was punished. Ms. Toad Dec 2025 #40
Question popsdenver Dec 2025 #58
That's legally complex. Ms. Toad Dec 2025 #60
Holy crap MT popsdenver Dec 2025 #69
The school reacted to the fight, not the underlying cause of the fight. Aussie105 Dec 2025 #27
sue the school and the boys who shared the video moonshinegnomie Dec 2025 #33
Wouldn't such images qualify as child pornography? cab67 Dec 2025 #36
If AI can do this kind of harm in the hands of a child Martin Eden Dec 2025 #37
There are not enough numbers in the universe to count all the ways punishing the victim is wrong. Hoosier_Progressiv Dec 2025 #39
My daughter is a high school guidance counseler. Joinfortmill Dec 2025 #41
Inciting violence is never a good way to solve problems. Initech Dec 2025 #43
Kinda the reason we're where we are now. BurnDoubt Dec 2025 #49
Oh, yeah, ... BurnDoubt Dec 2025 #51
So he got beat up by a girl??? Hope somebody caught THAT on video Jack Valentino Dec 2025 #54
This just happened in my city, Calgary in Alberta Canada Bev54 Dec 2025 #57
Is this the case? RockCreek Dec 2025 #66
Yes, that is the case. We still have a long way to go to keep up with changes in Bev54 Dec 2025 #67
I'd like to hear someone make the argument that the first amendment rightly permits this kind of thing. Morbius Dec 2025 #59
Where are the parents? blue-wave Dec 2025 #63
Kids are generally more tech savvy than their parents are. Jedi Guy Dec 2025 #77
I agree with your point blue-wave Dec 2025 #78
Go to the local DA markbark Dec 2025 #70
We need laws and this includes holding the tech companies themselves responsible JI7 Dec 2025 #75
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