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Jedi Guy

(3,457 posts)
61. Any man who puts hands on a woman except in self-defense is scum, full stop.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 04:54 PM
Yesterday

There's no call for physical violence from either party in a relationship. Adults resolve their quarrels with words and care and compromise.

When my wife and I were newly married we got into an argument. Tempers flared, indelicate words were exchanged, and then she gave me an open-handed shove to the chest hard enough to push me back a few steps.

I was floored that she'd put hands on me in anger. I didn't know how to react at first. I took a moment to calm down and then said that was out of line. I'd never put hands on her in anger and should be able to expect the same from her and, if it happened again, we were done. It's never happened since.

That's not to say I'm a battered man or a victim of domestic violence. It's just an illustration that even in heated moments both parties have to be adults and keep their cool.

To this Tim jackwagon, I'd say no amount of disrespect from his wife merits a physical response. None, full stop. Use your words, meathead. If she's being that disrespectful and refuses to stop even after attempts at dialogue, be the bigger person and walk away. End it and find someone who will treat you respectfully.

But at the same time, ponder that respect is earned. You get respect by being a decent human, not a domestic tyrant ruling with an iron fist. You shouldn't expect your wife to "submit" to you. She's your equal. Treat her that way and you might be shocked at how things go. As it turns out, women are people too. Shocking stuff, for sure.

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If that's real, Tim's divorce lawyer is gonna be pissed. n/t flvegan Yesterday #1
Liam Nissan is usually pretty acurate. Swede Yesterday #3
The wife beater is real and has been on Twitter since 2013 dalton99a Yesterday #4
Good argument for not marrying, at least not one of them. nt Susan Calvin Yesterday #12
When my husband and I were newlyweds BonnieJW Yesterday #41
Pigs do not beat up their partners. niyad Yesterday #51
And they're incapable of drawing a straight line from this to "The Male Loneliness Epidemic"? Aristus Yesterday #18
But, but...... SergeStorms Yesterday #34
I was thinking popsdenver Yesterday #53
Sadly, that mentality is wayyyyy too common. niyad Yesterday #55
And his defense attorney Diraven 23 hrs ago #82
.... because the BuyBull told me so.... magicarpet Yesterday #2
Prior to Trump, guys like this Dr. T Yesterday #17
Feminists call for equality... imaginary girl Yesterday #5
Sounds Like Tim Coolgoober Yesterday #6
Sadly, there are women who have no problem with that little pecadillo. niyad Yesterday #47
Many of them popsdenver Yesterday #56
Especially when they are members of churches where they are told niyad Yesterday #58
Along with Dobson? popsdenver Yesterday #59
We have not seen the whole list, probably never will. niyad Yesterday #60
Agreed popsdenver Yesterday #62
my grandma listened to that shithead + my 'oh hell no' button was hit many times. pansypoo53219 Yesterday #80
THIS!!! 👆👆👆👆👆👆👆 SheltieLover 13 hrs ago #101
Most live in Arkansas, I think LiberalArkie Yesterday #73
I have encountered them everywhere, especially where there are a lot niyad Yesterday #74
There are many in CA, nt LittleGirl 21 hrs ago #88
His new relationship COL Mustard 16 hrs ago #95
That is wild. Renew Deal Yesterday #7
True. When Chumpkins say we should "go back to the '50s" - they mean they 1350s. peppertree Yesterday #39
Am I supposed to know who this Tim Bradley is? Boomerproud Yesterday #8
Well I guess just scroll on by. Swede Yesterday #15
Right, exactly... Mtnmama Yesterday #19
Folks went all in on this JustAnotherGen Yesterday #9
Dude, posting on social media that you beat your ex is probably not a really good idea. mwmisses4289 Yesterday #10
Nah. Let these right-wing criminal idiots expose themselves to the rule of law. Justice matters. Yesterday #21
They're not known evolves Yesterday #23
He's posting because he's been taught by the people he follows that this is totally acceptable. Scrivener7 Yesterday #35
Well, they got away with filming the attack on the Congress... Wounded Bear Yesterday #42
"Mr. Bradley, do you still beat your wife?" appmanga Yesterday #11
Except he doesn't have a wife anymore swong19104 Yesterday #44
Sounds like angrychair Yesterday #13
I like your idea. CTyankee Yesterday #14
These sort of people exist and they keep the true crime shows in business. NNadir Yesterday #27
He deserves a new girlfriend, probably ChatGPT would be best for him FakeNoose Yesterday #30
No it's not "radical feminism", it's just you. Initech Yesterday #16
So, he just confessed to physical assault. Baitball Blogger Yesterday #20
So, I noticed the date on the second Twitter post is from October 2023. mwmisses4289 Yesterday #22
OMFG who writes this type of shit on social media, let alone say it in private. Bev54 Yesterday #24
Who thinks it? Renew Deal Yesterday #40
Someone who wishes to establish a pattern of behavior? Zambero 13 hrs ago #99
It is unbelievable that assholes on this level exist. NNadir Yesterday #25
If that is true, that is one of the sickest things I've ever read Grim Chieftain Yesterday #26
It's people like stupid Timmy Farmer-Rick Yesterday #28
He should be happy that he isn't swong19104 Yesterday #46
Ruled by thrle LITTLE head than the bigger one! ProudMNDemocrat Yesterday #29
At least he had the curtesy ornotna Yesterday #31
Whoa! BeneteauBum Yesterday #32
"...when I finally handled her for her disrespect and insubordinate behavior"??? calimary Yesterday #33
He belongs in a padded cell MustLoveBeagles Yesterday #36
Hes a coward!! Maine Abu El Banat Yesterday #37
He is abusive, patriarchal, christofascist scum. niyad Yesterday #50
"Physically handled her"? Jilly_in_VA Yesterday #38
Oh yeah, I bet he's really desirable Figarosmom Yesterday #43
Holy sh*t! pandr32 Yesterday #45
And trying to END the ability of women to leave is one of the niyad Yesterday #49
My curiosity is peaked! pandr32 Yesterday #54
Did you ever see the movie "The Ultimate Solution Of Grace Quigley" niyad Yesterday #57
I will check it out! pandr32 Yesterday #78
It was a most excellent film, the last one she did for the big screen, if niyad Yesterday #81
Thank you! pandr32 10 hrs ago #107
There is a particular (southern, if I remember correctly) phrase that seems niyad Yesterday #48
and this is exactly why people like JD Vance want to get rid of no-fault divorce DBoon Yesterday #52
Any man who puts hands on a woman except in self-defense is scum, full stop. Jedi Guy Yesterday #61
I'm going to hazard a guess that he has a fairly... 3catwoman3 23 hrs ago #84
This is what is wrong with our country. Plus rascism and a broken DOJ. Evolve Dammit Yesterday #63
If this guy wasn't well-known to start with... keep_left Yesterday #64
Oh! You sweet talker you! nickster48 Yesterday #65
too funny Beringia Yesterday #66
This sombitch hamsterjill Yesterday #67
A real tiny tim malaise Yesterday #68
Tell me you can't get laid COL Mustard Yesterday #69
Maga intelligence MW67 Yesterday #70
This is why women should not marry cpamomfromtexas Yesterday #71
Perfect ICE material. IcyPeas Yesterday #72
As one who has observed the Religious Right in America for over fifty years, I have concluded that a full third of artemisia1 Yesterday #75
Here is a link to a "moderate" Fundamentalist view on "disciplining" one's wife: artemisia1 Yesterday #77
Some of this fundamentalist discipline crowd feels the same about beating babies. Norrrm 22 hrs ago #85
There are, or at least were, mail order sites advertised in "Christian" magazines where parents could order "the Rod", a artemisia1 22 hrs ago #86
That shit... RetiredParatrooper 14 hrs ago #98
I hope he hasn't, and never reproduces. N/T tonekat Yesterday #76
The arrogance and total lack of decency in this man is astounding. He admits to abusing his wife and believes that Martin68 Yesterday #79
This message was self-deleted by its author Jack Valentino 23 hrs ago #83
Did radical feminism teach Trump to break his marriage vows and brag about his adultery? Norrrm 22 hrs ago #87
Am I the only one on DU róisín_dubh 21 hrs ago #89
We have started threads a couple of times about imgur not working in the UK muriel_volestrangler 18 hrs ago #92
I'm in the UK and just switch off wi-fi GenThePerservering 17 hrs ago #93
Ahhhh interesting! róisín_dubh 15 hrs ago #96
He's been brainwashed in a right wing church. GoodRaisin 21 hrs ago #90
He needs to be incarcerated... BurnDoubt 20 hrs ago #91
Who's Tim Bradley, a GOP nominee? Polybius 17 hrs ago #94
The guy has boundary issues bucolic_frolic 15 hrs ago #97
This ... CANNOT... be real uponit7771 13 hrs ago #100
Tim's the criminal "little bitch" in even his own scenario. He brags about "physical handled" treatment of her ... marble falls 13 hrs ago #102
Eff off A-hole and grow up!!! You ain't no man. Real men respect women. Clouds Passing 12 hrs ago #103
Is this guy applying for a job in the Orange Pedophile's cabinet? NNadir 11 hrs ago #104
See...that's why I call them the Republican Taliban. n/t CousinIT 11 hrs ago #105
Tim sounds like my first husband. Linda ladeewolf 11 hrs ago #106
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