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Ocelot II

(130,152 posts) Wed Mar 4, 2026, 11:09 AM 23 hrs ago

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So I just got this email from an in-law: [View all]

Subject line: "Glad i left 26 yrs ago"
"What a shit hole, Mn has become. A real shame," with links to racist and false YouTube videos about Somalis.

I haven't spoken to this nasty old bat in those 26 years since she moved to Arkansas, and I don't know why she sent me this crap. She said years ago that she moved to AR to get away from high taxes and black people. What upsets me that this rhymes-with-witch is married to an actual relative with whom I am on good terms, but who seems to be the original source of the YouTube links. My blood pressure went through the roof when I read it and my first impulse to respond with a comment like "I'm glad you left, too," with links to US News and Wallet Hub ranking the states (MN #4 vs. AR #44, https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/rankings, and MN #5 vs. AR #48, https://wallethub.com/edu/best-states-to-live-in/62617), but I suspect that said nasty old bat is trying to stir the pot. I am deeply disappointed in the relative and angry at his nasty old bat wife but life is too short; I know that mine isn't the shit hole state, and my Somali neighbors are better people than she is. I deleted the email.

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So I just got this email from an in-law: [View all] Ocelot II 23 hrs ago OP

She got away from black people by moving to Arkansas? Norrrm 23 hrs ago #1

She's in the northern part of the state in a county that's about 1% minority. Ocelot II 23 hrs ago #2

Sundown town, eh? Norrrm 19 hrs ago #39

Fraud is a crime and should be handled in a court of law Walleye 23 hrs ago #3

The fraud in question has been handled in court and a bunch of people Ocelot II 23 hrs ago #5

Well, it's stupid and Republican to blame all Somali refugees for crimes of a few Walleye 23 hrs ago #10

Abbott spent 11 billion on his border scam. Scruffy1 1 hr ago #58

United States I grew up and doesn't use barbed wire at the border to torture children looking for refugee statu Walleye 51 min ago #60

Those are two good facts. I'd send it. CrispyQ 23 hrs ago #4

I'm ignoring it, which will probably bug her more than any response I could provide. Ocelot II 23 hrs ago #7

Remember George Bernard Shaw Randomthought 22 hrs ago #23

You can't fix stupid. Katinfl 18 hrs ago #40

Dear Ocelot UpInArms 23 hrs ago #6

Sorry, but your response was appropriate. pandr32 23 hrs ago #8

My final response was no response at all except to delete the email. Ocelot II 23 hrs ago #9

Being a void to her vindictive posts is a good choice IMO irisblue 23 hrs ago #12

Sometimes silence is the very best Fuck You. Ocelot II 22 hrs ago #14

You consider creating a file to transfer her hate screeds to? irisblue 22 hrs ago #20

Not worth the effort. He's probably lost now too. Ocelot II 22 hrs ago #21

I'm sorry for your disappointment. pandr32 22 hrs ago #13

The best choice! niyad 22 hrs ago #16

Based on my own life, Dear_Prudence 21 hrs ago #32

LOL popsdenver 21 hrs ago #33

Good one blue_jay 10 hrs ago #56

If she ever asks you if you read the email, tell it it's probably in your Spam folder. nt Ilsa 21 hrs ago #35

You absolutely did the right thing. Katinfl 18 hrs ago #41

Yes, don't feed the trolls BWdem4life 23 hrs ago #11

The trolls that should be fed the least are the ones you know. Ocelot II 22 hrs ago #15

Awwww, can't we feed them to the alligators? or to whatever lives in the bayous? niyad 22 hrs ago #17

Forget about it AverageOldGuy 22 hrs ago #18

I've done exactly that. This mean old troll isn't getting fed. Ocelot II 22 hrs ago #22

My advice in these situations is always - don't engage. Hit delete and go about your day. flashman13 22 hrs ago #19

I did. Ocelot II 22 hrs ago #28

Wouldn't a good response be Quanto Magnus 22 hrs ago #24

I have one like that. mn9driver 22 hrs ago #25

DO NOT RESPOND. If you respond she wins. 617Blue 22 hrs ago #26

I did not respond, for exactly that reason. Ocelot II 22 hrs ago #27

She should check the relative standard of living and education levels of Arkansas. vs MN viva la 22 hrs ago #29

Delete is your friend. Clouds Passing 22 hrs ago #30

I used to think that not responding to people like that was the correct thing to do, you know, the higher road but Escurumbele 22 hrs ago #31

It's really difficult to hear such stupidity from people you respected mdbl 21 hrs ago #34

Afraid I wouldn't have been able to restrain myself relayerbob 21 hrs ago #36

Smart move. AltairIV 20 hrs ago #37

There is no harm in sending her factual information like the rankings of MN vrs AR. I think we should be educating Maraya1969 20 hrs ago #38

Waste of time. Ocelot II 18 hrs ago #43

The GOP doesn't say things like, "It's a waste of time" and that is one of the reasons they keep their talking points. Maraya1969 17 hrs ago #44

This isn't political, it's personal and has nothing to do with the GOP's methods. Ocelot II 17 hrs ago #45

Reply with facts KT2000 18 hrs ago #42

remind your in-laws of the facts. SleeplessinSoCal 17 hrs ago #46

My grandparents, parents and family have lived in MN for their entire lives (it is a well run state with decent people). waterwatcher123 17 hrs ago #47

Not responding was the correct choice. OldBaldy1701E 17 hrs ago #48

My MIL used to send crap like that. debsy 16 hrs ago #49

I'm sorry this happened to you. HeartsCanHope 15 hrs ago #50

My suggestion is that you should ignore this obvious provocation FakeNoose 12 hrs ago #51

Exactly. I haven't actually seen her or spoken with her in many years, since she left the state, Ocelot II 12 hrs ago #53

That email? Aussie105 12 hrs ago #52

Hey, Ocelot II, you're in better company right here. calimary 11 hrs ago #54

Silence speaks a thousand words to someone who seeks affirmation. Aussie105 10 hrs ago #55

The silence will probably drive them nuts. We're in tough times. Joinfortmill 2 hrs ago #57

But you must invite them for Christmas and endure their insults Arazi 52 min ago #59

Sometimes ignorring people speaks louder than words. It says "you're not worthy of my attention". appleannie1 25 min ago #61

And there's nothing more annoying to a troll than being ignored. Ocelot II 21 min ago #62