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HeartsCanHope

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50. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Wed Mar 4, 2026, 06:47 PM

6 hrs ago

It's always hard when someone you care about disappoints you. Your response was the correct one,

to not give them the satisfaction they are wanting from causing you pain. Silence is a powerful tool

when dealing with abusers.

They don't deserve you, my friend! Sending you love, light, and

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So I just got this email from an in-law: [View all] Ocelot II 13 hrs ago OP

She got away from black people by moving to Arkansas? Norrrm 13 hrs ago #1

She's in the northern part of the state in a county that's about 1% minority. Ocelot II 13 hrs ago #2

Sundown town, eh? Norrrm 9 hrs ago #39

Fraud is a crime and should be handled in a court of law Walleye 13 hrs ago #3

The fraud in question has been handled in court and a bunch of people Ocelot II 13 hrs ago #5

Well, it's stupid and Republican to blame all Somali refugees for crimes of a few Walleye 13 hrs ago #10

Those are two good facts. I'd send it. CrispyQ 13 hrs ago #4

I'm ignoring it, which will probably bug her more than any response I could provide. Ocelot II 13 hrs ago #7

Remember George Bernard Shaw Randomthought 12 hrs ago #23

You can't fix stupid. Katinfl 9 hrs ago #40

Dear Ocelot UpInArms 13 hrs ago #6

Sorry, but your response was appropriate. pandr32 13 hrs ago #8

My final response was no response at all except to delete the email. Ocelot II 13 hrs ago #9

Being a void to her vindictive posts is a good choice IMO irisblue 13 hrs ago #12

Sometimes silence is the very best Fuck You. Ocelot II 13 hrs ago #14

You consider creating a file to transfer her hate screeds to? irisblue 12 hrs ago #20

Not worth the effort. He's probably lost now too. Ocelot II 12 hrs ago #21

I'm sorry for your disappointment. pandr32 13 hrs ago #13

The best choice! niyad 13 hrs ago #16

Based on my own life, Dear_Prudence 12 hrs ago #32

LOL popsdenver 12 hrs ago #33

Good one blue_jay 52 min ago #56

If she ever asks you if you read the email, tell it it's probably in your Spam folder. nt Ilsa 11 hrs ago #35

You absolutely did the right thing. Katinfl 9 hrs ago #41

Yes, don't feed the trolls BWdem4life 13 hrs ago #11

The trolls that should be fed the least are the ones you know. Ocelot II 13 hrs ago #15

Awwww, can't we feed them to the alligators? or to whatever lives in the bayous? niyad 13 hrs ago #17

Forget about it AverageOldGuy 13 hrs ago #18

I've done exactly that. This mean old troll isn't getting fed. Ocelot II 12 hrs ago #22

My advice in these situations is always - don't engage. Hit delete and go about your day. flashman13 12 hrs ago #19

I did. Ocelot II 12 hrs ago #28

Wouldn't a good response be Quanto Magnus 12 hrs ago #24

I have one like that. mn9driver 12 hrs ago #25

DO NOT RESPOND. If you respond she wins. 617Blue 12 hrs ago #26

I did not respond, for exactly that reason. Ocelot II 12 hrs ago #27

She should check the relative standard of living and education levels of Arkansas. vs MN viva la 12 hrs ago #29

Delete is your friend. Clouds Passing 12 hrs ago #30

I used to think that not responding to people like that was the correct thing to do, you know, the higher road but Escurumbele 12 hrs ago #31

It's really difficult to hear such stupidity from people you respected mdbl 11 hrs ago #34

Afraid I wouldn't have been able to restrain myself relayerbob 11 hrs ago #36

Smart move. AltairIV 11 hrs ago #37

There is no harm in sending her factual information like the rankings of MN vrs AR. I think we should be educating Maraya1969 10 hrs ago #38

Waste of time. Ocelot II 8 hrs ago #43

The GOP doesn't say things like, "It's a waste of time" and that is one of the reasons they keep their talking points. Maraya1969 8 hrs ago #44

This isn't political, it's personal and has nothing to do with the GOP's methods. Ocelot II 8 hrs ago #45

Reply with facts KT2000 8 hrs ago #42

remind your in-laws of the facts. SleeplessinSoCal 7 hrs ago #46

My grandparents, parents and family have lived in MN for their entire lives (it is a well run state with decent people). waterwatcher123 7 hrs ago #47

Not responding was the correct choice. OldBaldy1701E 7 hrs ago #48

My MIL used to send crap like that. debsy 6 hrs ago #49

I'm sorry this happened to you. HeartsCanHope 6 hrs ago #50

My suggestion is that you should ignore this obvious provocation FakeNoose 3 hrs ago #51

Exactly. I haven't actually seen her or spoken with her in many years, since she left the state, Ocelot II 2 hrs ago #53

That email? Aussie105 2 hrs ago #52

Hey, Ocelot II, you're in better company right here. calimary 1 hr ago #54

Silence speaks a thousand words to someone who seeks affirmation. Aussie105 57 min ago #55