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MontanaMama

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64. Dang. It's so disheartening when friends and family

Thu Mar 5, 2026, 11:13 AM

6 hrs ago

pull this garbage. I’m sorry.
I had an uncle who did this same thing. As you said above, sometimes it’s best to ignore these things. They’re looking for a reaction from you. Other times it requires a response. You won’t change her mind, that’s for sure. I can remember my uncle sending me an email singing the praises of Ben Carson, I responded with “you’ve apparently forgotten who I am! Enjoy your day.” He never sent me an email like that again.

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So I just got this email from an in-law: [View all] Ocelot II Yesterday OP

She got away from black people by moving to Arkansas? Norrrm Yesterday #1

She's in the northern part of the state in a county that's about 1% minority. Ocelot II Yesterday #2

Sundown town, eh? Norrrm Yesterday #39

Fraud is a crime and should be handled in a court of law Walleye Yesterday #3

The fraud in question has been handled in court and a bunch of people Ocelot II Yesterday #5

Well, it's stupid and Republican to blame all Somali refugees for crimes of a few Walleye Yesterday #10

Abbott spent 11 billion on his border scam. Scruffy1 8 hrs ago #58

United States I grew up and doesn't use barbed wire at the border to torture children looking for refugee statu Walleye 8 hrs ago #60

Those are two good facts. I'd send it. CrispyQ Yesterday #4

I'm ignoring it, which will probably bug her more than any response I could provide. Ocelot II Yesterday #7

Remember George Bernard Shaw Randomthought Yesterday #23

You can't fix stupid. Katinfl Yesterday #40

Dear Ocelot UpInArms Yesterday #6

Sorry, but your response was appropriate. pandr32 Yesterday #8

My final response was no response at all except to delete the email. Ocelot II Yesterday #9

Being a void to her vindictive posts is a good choice IMO irisblue Yesterday #12

Sometimes silence is the very best Fuck You. Ocelot II Yesterday #14

You consider creating a file to transfer her hate screeds to? irisblue Yesterday #20

Not worth the effort. He's probably lost now too. Ocelot II Yesterday #21

I'm sorry for your disappointment. pandr32 Yesterday #13

The best choice! niyad Yesterday #16

Based on my own life, Dear_Prudence Yesterday #32

LOL popsdenver Yesterday #33

Good one blue_jay 18 hrs ago #56

If she ever asks you if you read the email, tell it it's probably in your Spam folder. nt Ilsa Yesterday #35

You absolutely did the right thing. Katinfl Yesterday #41

Yes, don't feed the trolls BWdem4life Yesterday #11

The trolls that should be fed the least are the ones you know. Ocelot II Yesterday #15

Awwww, can't we feed them to the alligators? or to whatever lives in the bayous? niyad Yesterday #17

Forget about it AverageOldGuy Yesterday #18

I've done exactly that. This mean old troll isn't getting fed. Ocelot II Yesterday #22

My advice in these situations is always - don't engage. Hit delete and go about your day. flashman13 Yesterday #19

I did. Ocelot II Yesterday #28

Wouldn't a good response be Quanto Magnus Yesterday #24

I have one like that. mn9driver Yesterday #25

DO NOT RESPOND. If you respond she wins. 617Blue Yesterday #26

I did not respond, for exactly that reason. Ocelot II Yesterday #27

She should check the relative standard of living and education levels of Arkansas. vs MN viva la Yesterday #29

Delete is your friend. Clouds Passing Yesterday #30

I used to think that not responding to people like that was the correct thing to do, you know, the higher road but Escurumbele Yesterday #31

It's really difficult to hear such stupidity from people you respected mdbl Yesterday #34

Afraid I wouldn't have been able to restrain myself relayerbob Yesterday #36

Smart move. AltairIV Yesterday #37

There is no harm in sending her factual information like the rankings of MN vrs AR. I think we should be educating Maraya1969 Yesterday #38

Waste of time. Ocelot II Yesterday #43

The GOP doesn't say things like, "It's a waste of time" and that is one of the reasons they keep their talking points. Maraya1969 Yesterday #44

This isn't political, it's personal and has nothing to do with the GOP's methods. Ocelot II Yesterday #45

Reply with facts KT2000 Yesterday #42

remind your in-laws of the facts. SleeplessinSoCal Yesterday #46

My grandparents, parents and family have lived in MN for their entire lives (it is a well run state with decent people). waterwatcher123 Yesterday #47

Not responding was the correct choice. OldBaldy1701E Yesterday #48

My MIL used to send crap like that. debsy 23 hrs ago #49

I'm sorry this happened to you. HeartsCanHope 23 hrs ago #50

My suggestion is that you should ignore this obvious provocation FakeNoose 20 hrs ago #51

Exactly. I haven't actually seen her or spoken with her in many years, since she left the state, Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #53

That email? Aussie105 19 hrs ago #52

Hey, Ocelot II, you're in better company right here. calimary 18 hrs ago #54

Silence speaks a thousand words to someone who seeks affirmation. Aussie105 18 hrs ago #55

The silence will probably drive them nuts. We're in tough times. Joinfortmill 10 hrs ago #57

But you must invite them for Christmas and endure their insults Arazi 8 hrs ago #59

Sometimes ignorring people speaks louder than words. It says "you're not worthy of my attention". appleannie1 7 hrs ago #61

And there's nothing more annoying to a troll than being ignored. Ocelot II 7 hrs ago #62

FWIW, my son just bought a house in the Minneapolis area and decided to settle there SpankMe 7 hrs ago #63

Dang. It's so disheartening when friends and family MontanaMama 6 hrs ago #64