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40. You did not fail her. You took her in and loved her for years and years. I know you are greiving but don't please stop

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Wed Mar 18, 2026, 11:07 AM

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beating yourself up. I know how you feel because it happened to me. I let a little dog get overweight without realizing she had heart valve problems. It took me a while to accept that we loved her and how happy her life was. Please be kind to yourself right now.

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We had to put my little sweatheart down Saturday night. [View all] AZ8theist Wednesday OP

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I am so sorry for your loss. BlueKota Wednesday #2

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Oh AZ8theist, you didn't fail her. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. femmedem Wednesday #5

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Oh WOW. What a beautiful painting! Tears beginning ..... Diamond_Dog Wednesday #26

I, too, deal with guilt over the death of my last dog. 70sEraVet Wednesday #9

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I'm sorry AZ8theist 😥 Aw Peanut Clouds Passing Wednesday #29

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So sorry for your loss, AZ8theist. democrank Wednesday #32

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Thank you for saying this, Bluepinky EuterpeThelo Wednesday #76

I love everything about your response. Bluepinky Thursday #81

You may not be a "believer" Mme. Defarge Wednesday #35

My dear AZ8theist, you absolutely, positively did NOT fail your beloved Peanut! First of all, you rescued her! Second, LaMouffette Wednesday #36

Love this, LM. Thanks for sharing and I hope it brings some comfort to the OP. EuterpeThelo Wednesday #77

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Thanks, LM. EuterpeThelo Thursday #85

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Dear AZ8theist, You did not fail Peanut Grim Chieftain Wednesday #43

rest in peace peanut. i am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby az8theist dawn5651 Wednesday #44

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Good advice. And same for humans. Dental health affects the rest of the body... CousinIT Wednesday #48

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RIP Peanut Figarosmom Wednesday #57

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You loved her, you didn't fail her Raine Wednesday #70

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I am so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Wednesday #72

This was a big help to me the last time we went through this. Abolishinist Wednesday #73

I spent $4,000 on my Chihuahua's teeth BigmanPigman Wednesday #74

I'm so sorry, AZ8theist. We are still not over missing our little guy, Buddy. He was the best. summer_in_TX Wednesday #75

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