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Buddyzbuddy

(2,515 posts)
71. You couldn't possibly have failed her.
Wed Mar 18, 2026, 07:26 PM
14 hrs ago

Not the person that took her in 10 years ago with the silent promise to take care of her to the best of their ability with the limited knowledge to do so and the person that wrote "But she was the most sweatest, loving little dog one could ever hope to have."

Like most of us who have rescued dogs, unless you're an animal vet, your knowledge is limited by your experiences and advice.
Don't get me started on how many horrendous mistakes I've made with our pet companions but I've learned from each experience that helps each rescued companion that has followed to live a better, happier life. But like you, I carry the guilt of those mistakes and mourned the deep loss of our companions.

I feel great sorrow for the loss you and your family are experiencing.
When the emotional pain has lessened with time, know that Peanut was loved and cared for and knew it. Peanut is the reason you will be better with any future rescues. Thank you for passing on your suggestion. Thank you, Peanut.
Be well, AZ8theist.

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My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Yesterday #1
I am so sorry for your loss. BlueKota Yesterday #2
My deepest sympathies and condolences. AltairIV Yesterday #3
Dogs are good people Zelda_Orchid Yesterday #4
The best Dave says Yesterday #22
Oh AZ8theist, you didn't fail her. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. femmedem Yesterday #5
You did not fail her malaise Yesterday #6
Dear Peanut, cross gently over the Rainbow Bridge FakeNoose Yesterday #7
Crossing The Rainbow Bridge by Stella Violano George McGovern Yesterday #8
I LOVE that!! 70sEraVet Yesterday #10
Oh WOW. What a beautiful painting! Tears beginning ..... Diamond_Dog Yesterday #26
I, too, deal with guilt over the death of my last dog. 70sEraVet Yesterday #9
Rest gently Peanut lonely bird Yesterday #11
I'm so sorry AZ8theist, please be kind to yourself today. JMCKUSICK Yesterday #12
I'm so sorry mountain grammy Yesterday #13
My sympathies to you and your clan. Swede Yesterday #14
I am so so very sorry for your loss. irisblue Yesterday #15
I am so sorry. LoisB Yesterday #16
Lady of the Beasts, please take your little Peanut gently home in Your niyad Yesterday #17
Condolences gademocrat7 Yesterday #18
I'm so sorry for your loss. You did not fail her. Phoenix61 Yesterday #19
I am so sorry get the red out Yesterday #20
Sorry for your loss. Americanme Yesterday #21
You did the right thing you stopped your friend from hurting but that doesn't stop you from feeling the hurt 2. Botany Yesterday #23
What a beautiful girl. StarryNite Yesterday #24
So sorry for your loss. FalloutShelter Yesterday #25
You did not fail her. kellytore Yesterday #27
You gave Peanut a loving home for ten years. That counts for everything. Diamond_Dog Yesterday #28
I'm sorry AZ8theist 😥 Aw Peanut Clouds Passing Yesterday #29
Deepest condolences on the loss of Peanut. virgdem 23 hrs ago #30
My profound condolences to you. kairos12 23 hrs ago #31
So sorry for your loss, AZ8theist. democrank 23 hrs ago #32
It is hard saying goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote 23 hrs ago #33
So sorry about Peanut. But you didn't fail her. Bluepinky 23 hrs ago #34
Thank you for saying this, Bluepinky EuterpeThelo 10 hrs ago #76
I love everything about your response. Bluepinky 9 hrs ago #81
You may not be a "believer" Mme. Defarge 23 hrs ago #35
My dear AZ8theist, you absolutely, positively did NOT fail your beloved Peanut! First of all, you rescued her! Second, LaMouffette 23 hrs ago #36
Love this, LM. Thanks for sharing and I hope it brings some comfort to the OP. EuterpeThelo 10 hrs ago #77
My deepest condolences for the loss of your husband, EuterpeThelo. I had a visit from my mom the same night she passed. LaMouffette 1 hr ago #84
Thanks, LM. EuterpeThelo 31 min ago #85
Very sorry for your loss of Peanut. Prairie_Seagull 23 hrs ago #37
I am so sorry, AZ8theist. My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope 23 hrs ago #38
Oh no, you didn't fail her... róisín_dubh 23 hrs ago #39
You did not fail her. You took her in and loved her for years and years. I know you are greiving but don't please stop ratchiweenie 23 hrs ago #40
Such a sweet face PatSeg 22 hrs ago #41
Peanut was beautiful dog 🐕😍 MustLoveBeagles 22 hrs ago #42
Dear AZ8theist, You did not fail Peanut Grim Chieftain 22 hrs ago #43
rest in peace peanut. i am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby az8theist dawn5651 22 hrs ago #44
Oh, AZ8theist, the sorrow and overwhelming loss you are feeling is the sure sign that your Peanut had the best and KitFox 21 hrs ago #45
I am so sorry for you Scubamatt 21 hrs ago #46
My heart goes out to you. chowder66 21 hrs ago #47
Good advice. And same for humans. Dental health affects the rest of the body... CousinIT 21 hrs ago #48
So sorry for your loss - TBF 21 hrs ago #49
We've been there! Lulu KC 20 hrs ago #50
Deepest condolences SheltieLover 20 hrs ago #51
I'm so sorry. area51 20 hrs ago #52
I'm so sorry for your loss of sweet Peanut. My sympathy livetohike 20 hrs ago #53
Prayers for your broken heart 💔 Ten years of tender loving care gave Peanut her best life so now she can rest in peace Deuxcents 20 hrs ago #54
I am so sorry cate94 20 hrs ago #55
Oh no leftstreet 20 hrs ago #56
RIP Peanut Figarosmom 19 hrs ago #57
Please do not blame yourself. Bumbles 18 hrs ago #58
Please be as gentle with yourself as you would be with a friend in your shoes. pat_k 17 hrs ago #59
so very sorry peacebuzzard 17 hrs ago #60
I'm so sorry for your loss doubleplusgood 17 hrs ago #61
so sorry AZ8theist Skittles 17 hrs ago #62
I'm So Sorry NEOH 17 hrs ago #63
I am so sorry, AZ8theist. It wasn't your fault. May the memories of sweet Peanut be a blessing to you. debm55 17 hrs ago #64
I'm so very sorry stage left 16 hrs ago #65
I'm so sorry! redwitch 16 hrs ago #66
Peanut would not want you to blame yourself and feel guilty senseandsensibility 15 hrs ago #67
Nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. 💧💔 littlemissmartypants 15 hrs ago #68
I am so sorry for your loss! debsy 15 hrs ago #69
You loved her, you didn't fail her Raine 15 hrs ago #70
You couldn't possibly have failed her. Buddyzbuddy 14 hrs ago #71
I am so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue 13 hrs ago #72
This was a big help to me the last time we went through this. Abolishinist 13 hrs ago #73
I spent $4,000 on my Chihuahua's teeth BigmanPigman 13 hrs ago #74
I'm so sorry, AZ8theist. We are still not over missing our little guy, Buddy. He was the best. summer_in_TX 11 hrs ago #75
It's normal tp blame yourself in your grief. soldierant 10 hrs ago #78
You loved that dog, you didn't fail it. Give yourself a break, losing a dog is tough enough. dem4decades 10 hrs ago #79
I'm sorry you're hurting JoseBalow 9 hrs ago #80
Very sad Old Crank 6 hrs ago #82
I'm so sorry for your loss wendyb-NC 3 hrs ago #83
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