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QueerDuck

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20. Exactly. It's exhausting trying trying to be a good ally...

Reply to Ms. Toad (Reply #19)

Tue Mar 31, 2026, 02:58 PM

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I can only imagine the toll of actually living that reality every day. It's deeply disheartening when various progressive spaces (the very places that should know better) end up silencing or dismissing the people who call out unfortunate double standards. It’s the "cis-splaining" and the hostility and the selective outrage that makes it so draining. It feels like some people are more interested in protecting a particular narrative than they are in protecting the actual human beings involved, or in acknowledging how hurtful it all is. I really appreciate you speaking up in support.

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