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Figarosmom

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4. Yes, taught to be nice is abig one.

Reply to yardwork (Reply #1)

Tue Apr 14, 2026, 04:19 PM

9 hrs ago

I've stopped doing that. Have had to get downright mean on some occasions when the guy just doesn't take the hint and stops bothering me. Than getting mean can get you in worse danger if the guy wants to get even. So we are pit into these catch 22 positions.

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A friend and I were discussing assaults, both sexual and otherwise, [View all] niyad 9 hrs ago OP

Most sexual assaults are not stranger abductions. yardwork 9 hrs ago #1

Yes, taught to be nice is abig one. Figarosmom 9 hrs ago #4

Exactly! yardwork 9 hrs ago #5

You will notice that I did not limit my OP to sexual assaults only. niyad 8 hrs ago #20

Yes more women are abused by someone thwy trust Lifeafter70 7 hrs ago #24

Times change and we live in a world of privacy violations jfz9580m 4 hrs ago #38

When my daughter was 12 Figarosmom 9 hrs ago #2

Brava! Congrats to her! You must be very proud of her! SheltieLover 9 hrs ago #6

Sure am!😊 Figarosmom 9 hrs ago #13

Excellent! I wish all parents did this. niyad 8 hrs ago #19

Same here. My daughter was a black belt at age 13. Irish_Dem 7 hrs ago #26

Yeah funny how that works, the politeness factor. Figarosmom 4 hrs ago #36

I taught taekwondo to children and adults oberle 7 hrs ago #29

I had friends that trained Figarosmom 4 hrs ago #35

Thank you for all that you have done. niyad 4 hrs ago #37

Worry more about partners, "friends," and creepy bosses, Ocelot II 9 hrs ago #3

Yes! SheltieLover 9 hrs ago #7

You will notice that I did not limit my OP to sexual assaults only. niyad 8 hrs ago #21

I don't remember what SING stands for LearnedHand 9 hrs ago #8

I think it's Solar plexus, Insole, Nose, Groin EdmondDantes_ 9 hrs ago #11

Thanks! LearnedHand 9 hrs ago #12

Watch Miss Congeniality! MorbidButterflyTat 7 hrs ago #25

That's where i first learned about it lol LearnedHand 5 hrs ago #33

I like that dye idea, like in money robbed from a bank EdmondDantes_ 9 hrs ago #9

But Swalwell knew what was right and wrong JI7 9 hrs ago #15

Not enough to not be an abuser EdmondDantes_ 9 hrs ago #16

Teaching men and boys not to be abusers is great. How long is that niyad 8 hrs ago #18

My fantasy is that men are barred from owning any weapon. Irish_Dem 7 hrs ago #27

Sadly, the way things are going in this misogynist, patriarchal niyad 7 hrs ago #28

Yes women's rights are going by the wayside. Irish_Dem 7 hrs ago #30

A man that SA women I_UndergroundPanther 3 hrs ago #42

My point is I don't think simply giving women tools is enough EdmondDantes_ 7 hrs ago #31

All very interesting. But PLEASE notice that I specifically mentioned niyad 7 hrs ago #32

cell phones. mopinko 9 hrs ago #10

The biggest threats are those we know and agree to see JI7 9 hrs ago #14

??? niyad 8 hrs ago #17

Women need to be empowered to fight back. hamsterjill 8 hrs ago #22

Looking self-assured and aware certainly helps. In a similar discussion niyad 8 hrs ago #23

If you find yourself in a bad situation, wnylib 5 hrs ago #34

Yes, trust your instincts! I am so very glad that you did exactly that, niyad 4 hrs ago #39

Yikes 😳 MustLoveBeagles 4 hrs ago #40

So am I. It seems even scarier to me now that I'm older and wnylib 3 hrs ago #41