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EdmondDantes_

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16. Not enough to not be an abuser

Reply to JI7 (Reply #15)

Tue Apr 14, 2026, 04:55 PM

Apr 14

I guess I mean we need to teach boys and men to act better. I know how to be violent from years of martial arts, but I don't use that against people who anger me because I'm capable of not acting on an urge. Swalell chose to not act better.

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A friend and I were discussing assaults, both sexual and otherwise, [View all] niyad Apr 14 OP

Most sexual assaults are not stranger abductions. yardwork Apr 14 #1

Yes, taught to be nice is abig one. Figarosmom Apr 14 #4

Exactly! yardwork Apr 14 #5

You will notice that I did not limit my OP to sexual assaults only. niyad Apr 14 #20

Yes more women are abused by someone thwy trust Lifeafter70 Apr 14 #24

Times change and we live in a world of privacy violations jfz9580m Apr 14 #38

When my daughter was 12 Figarosmom Apr 14 #2

Brava! Congrats to her! You must be very proud of her! SheltieLover Apr 14 #6

Sure am!😊 Figarosmom Apr 14 #13

Excellent! I wish all parents did this. niyad Apr 14 #19

Same here. My daughter was a black belt at age 13. Irish_Dem Apr 14 #26

Yeah funny how that works, the politeness factor. Figarosmom Apr 14 #36

My daughter is 4ft 10in and 95 lbs. Irish_Dem Apr 15 #44

I taught taekwondo to children and adults oberle Apr 14 #29

I had friends that trained Figarosmom Apr 14 #35

Thank you for all that you have done. niyad Apr 14 #37

My daughter loved it. Irish_Dem Apr 15 #45

Worry more about partners, "friends," and creepy bosses, Ocelot II Apr 14 #3

Yes! SheltieLover Apr 14 #7

You will notice that I did not limit my OP to sexual assaults only. niyad Apr 14 #21

I don't remember what SING stands for LearnedHand Apr 14 #8

I think it's Solar plexus, Insole, Nose, Groin EdmondDantes_ Apr 14 #11

Thanks! LearnedHand Apr 14 #12

Watch Miss Congeniality! MorbidButterflyTat Apr 14 #25

That's where i first learned about it lol LearnedHand Apr 14 #33

I like that dye idea, like in money robbed from a bank EdmondDantes_ Apr 14 #9

But Swalwell knew what was right and wrong JI7 Apr 14 #15

Not enough to not be an abuser EdmondDantes_ Apr 14 #16

Teaching men and boys not to be abusers is great. How long is that niyad Apr 14 #18

My fantasy is that men are barred from owning any weapon. Irish_Dem Apr 14 #27

Sadly, the way things are going in this misogynist, patriarchal niyad Apr 14 #28

Yes women's rights are going by the wayside. Irish_Dem Apr 14 #30

A man that SA women I_UndergroundPanther Apr 14 #42

My point is I don't think simply giving women tools is enough EdmondDantes_ Apr 14 #31

All very interesting. But PLEASE notice that I specifically mentioned niyad Apr 14 #32

Any physical boundary violation when a woman says no. Irish_Dem Apr 15 #47

I agree there will need to be a multi-layered approach. Irish_Dem Apr 15 #46

cell phones. mopinko Apr 14 #10

The biggest threats are those we know and agree to see JI7 Apr 14 #14

??? niyad Apr 14 #17

Women need to be empowered to fight back. hamsterjill Apr 14 #22

Looking self-assured and aware certainly helps. In a similar discussion niyad Apr 14 #23

If you find yourself in a bad situation, wnylib Apr 14 #34

Yes, trust your instincts! I am so very glad that you did exactly that, niyad Apr 14 #39

Yikes 😳 MustLoveBeagles Apr 14 #40

So am I. It seems even scarier to me now that I'm older and wnylib Apr 14 #41

Good for you! YES, always trust gut instinct! SheltieLover Apr 15 #43