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wnylib

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36. Agree that impostors nevrr seem to feel like impostors.

Tue Jun 2, 2026, 03:42 PM

Jun 2

Single women (and married ones) have a social take on this, apart from the workplace.

A woman alone, or even out with women friends in a social setting, is/are likely to be approached by some imposters who have some remarkable lines.

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"I've never heard a white man talk about impostor syndrome. I haven't met one." [View all] malaise Jun 2 OP

Perhaps, the White Men don't understand the imposter syndrum. chouchou Jun 2 #1

I love Michelle, but yeah... NO. I suffer from that almost every day. Happy Hoosier Jun 2 #2

Yes there are non-elite white men malaise Jun 2 #6

It was clear H2O Man Jun 2 #22

Agree malaise Jun 2 #30

Please explain it then, is she only talking the upper crust hoity toity stuff? questionseverything Jun 2 #33

"at every powerful table there is" H2O Man Jun 2 #59

Respectfully, she sits at the highest table. mr715 Jun 2 #66

I'm fine with H2O Man Jun 2 #68

I assume no one sits near those tables. mr715 Jun 2 #69

Right. H2O Man Jun 2 #75

I'm not understanding something. mr715 Jun 2 #79

Okay. H2O Man Jun 2 #86

Thank you for taking the time to write this reply to help me understand mr715 Jun 2 #87

Thank you H2O Man Jun 2 #88

This is a perfect example of white privilege: Celerity Jun 2 #82

That's great H2O Man Jun 2 #84

Well said. I share your opinion. NT Happy Hoosier Wednesday #94

She sat at dinner tables not the meeting table... questionseverything Jun 2 #73

Oh H2O Man Jun 2 #76

The Obama White House was pretty transparent about what the president and first family were doing questionseverything Jun 2 #78

Well yes, she could have. H2O Man Jun 2 #81

This message was self-deleted by its author questionseverything Jun 2 #74

Name one time H2O Man Jun 2 #77

That's fair, but... Happy Hoosier Wednesday #93

That would be H2O Man Wednesday #96

I think that you are not alone. I understand what Michelle means, but wnylib Jun 2 #26

ironically in my work -- the imposters never seem to feel like imposters. just arrogant POS JT45242 Jun 2 #31

Agree that impostors nevrr seem to feel like impostors. wnylib Jun 2 #36

Absolutely... furthermore... Happy Hoosier Jun 2 #32

But did THEY acknowledge that they were impostors is the question... live love laugh Wednesday #90

Totally agree. Michelle may not know many working class white men. johnnyplankton Jun 2 #45

You just described me genxlib Jun 2 #56

I'm a white man getting a Ph.D. in neurobiology mr715 Jun 2 #3

Similar here but working in higher level technology OC375 Jun 2 #25

Just be glad your not a white dumbass, like me! Doodley Jun 2 #71

I'm a white dumbass. mr715 Jun 2 #72

I appreciate her candor MustLoveBeagles Jun 2 #4

Funny that it's resulted in some reasoned TheProle Jun 2 #53

She needs to meet more people Renew Deal Jun 2 #5

I'm black but a disagree. tman Jun 2 #7

Trmp at a Mensa meeting would feel that he was among a whole bunch of imposters. nt eppur_se_muova Jun 2 #8

Yup. Kid Berwyn Jun 2 #9

Right! H2O Man Jun 2 #24

Well, she certainly hasn't met everyone. BlueTsunami2018 Jun 2 #10

Hanks has it because deep down, he knows Peter Scolari was the better actor on "bosom buddies" unblock Jun 2 #13

I've seen astronauts discuss it Sympthsical Jun 2 #15

"When they go low..." mr715 Jun 2 #19

during my work years i occasionally felt like i was faking it. rampartd Jun 2 #11

So that's what it's called... NewHendoLib Jun 2 #12

She doesn't appear to have any close white male friends Bok_Tukalo Jun 2 #14

Hi, Mrs. Obama. I'm Aristus. Nice to meet you. I am a great admirer of you and your husband. Aristus Jun 2 #16

. mr715 Jun 2 #18

All those unqualified white morons in the current administration Americanme Jun 2 #17

I wish there was a pill? Prairie_Seagull Jun 2 #20

Ah, sweet Xanax... mr715 Jun 2 #60

100 percent. nt Prairie_Seagull Wednesday #95

He may not talk about it, but our so-called President has deep insecurity about not being good enough, good looking Sogo Jun 2 #21

And he has never forgiven the New York elites for not malaise Jun 2 #28

Exactly. He will never admit to it, but some tiny part of him... 3catwoman3 Jun 2 #38

Then she should meet me nuxvomica Jun 2 #23

Recommended. H2O Man Jun 2 #27

I read it Sympthsical Jun 2 #35

Thank you. I respect Ms Obama, but this is some tone-deaf shit TheProle Jun 2 #42

Oh hell, I'm there Sympthsical Jun 2 #44

Kudos on the courage for a career change TheProle Jun 2 #47

Congrats. mr715 Jun 2 #51

No thank you. H2O Man Jun 2 #54

retirement freed me from imposter syndrome mike_c Jun 2 #29

No offense to her, but I'm guessing she's not really in the same circles as white men who experience imposter syndrome. WhiskeyGrinder Jun 2 #34

In creative circles, that's pretty much everyone. C_U_L8R Jun 2 #37

It's the difference between being welcome at the table dlk Jun 2 #39

I'll admit to the imposter syndrome BeneteauBum Jun 2 #40

OK, I looked it up Skittles Jun 2 #46

Thanks Skittles BeneteauBum Jun 2 #62

yup Skittles Jun 2 #83

I wanted to be an estuary ecologist when I was in college. mr715 Jun 2 #57

It was a rewarding career BeneteauBum Jun 2 #65

Both my youngest son and I, white men have experienced it. NNadir Jun 2 #41

IIRC, when asked if she was ever intimidated by these meetings, she said, "No, they're not all that smart." OMGWTF Jun 2 #43

Maybe Michelle Obama had a different meaning FakeNoose Jun 2 #48

I hate to say this: PCIntern Jun 2 #49

She hasn't talked to me. Hassler Jun 2 #50

Sorry Mrs Obama ironman99 Jun 2 #52

I think it's very naive to assume it never happens to white men Skittles Jun 2 #55

Well, I've never heard a black woman talk about impostor syndrome. Intractable Jun 2 #58

That's hyperbolic, and may be true in her experience, but not universally true. Ursus Rex Jun 2 #61

Huge gaffe... gulliver Jun 2 #63

It's clear MorbidButterflyTat Jun 2 #64

Sorry, but she needs to get out more. She hasn't heard about imposter syndrome from white men RockRaven Jun 2 #67

It's a fact that some white men are more insecure or less fortunate than some black men. Doodley Jun 2 #70

I adore her but she's wrong in this. I think most white men suffer from this Iris Jun 2 #80

I don't get the furor misanthrope Jun 2 #85

*headdesk* Does she even know what it is? sakabatou Wednesday #89

I don't by any means sit at the kind of elite tables she's talking about. Jedi Guy Wednesday #91

Michelle apparently never talked to a white man like my boyfriend. Boyfriend said Raine Wednesday #92