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121. Why do people keep using "sexting" to mean

Tue Jun 2, 2026, 07:38 PM

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… sexual interplay of any kind is horrific, abusive, etc. when there’s a huge difference between consenting adults and truly abusive situations with unwilling women/children. I can’t say I’d have any interest in doing this (gah—not going to put pix or sex talk out there into the universe for posterity!) but I’m not going to clutch my pearls and screech about someone else choosing to do so.

To me, the big problem is when it’s done with someone outside a current relationship—i.e. cheating on a spouse/lover. Ruins your argument when you try to make this an all or nothing outrage.

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Sexting is wrong and victimizes females. Irish_Dem Tuesday #1

How does sexting victimize females? Sympthsical Tuesday #3

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Back to the 80's, it seems orangecrush Tuesday #10

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