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DET

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34. "Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job."
Wed Jun 3, 2026, 10:56 PM
12 hrs ago

I would add ‘…and take care of their parents like they had no kids and no job’.

We were lucky…my mother was in a great nursing home on Medicaid and my mother-in-law could afford a good assisted living facility. But many families can’t do that, and the burden of care often falls primarily on the women in the family.

This will get much worse once the Medicaid cuts in the Big Crappy Bill go into effect, since the majority of nursing home patients are on Medicaid and will be kicked out of their nursing homes and returned to their families - if they are lucky enough to have them. From what I’ve seen, most nursing home patients require 24/7 specialized care, which is impossible to provide in a home environment. I find this all unbearably cruel.

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Bookmarked!!! IA8IT 17 hrs ago #1
Most Women sit around watching "A brighter Day" ..polishing their nails... chouchou 17 hrs ago #2
What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity 15 hrs ago #15
A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad 15 hrs ago #16
never heard of it Celerity 15 hrs ago #20
I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad 14 hrs ago #23
One of the ridiculous daytime Dramas that could have wasted one's life away. chouchou 12 hrs ago #37
I've never been a huge fan PatSeg 1 hr ago #47
Unfortunately, Your words are True. chouchou 39 min ago #49
And guess what types of people PatSeg 18 min ago #50
Will the Democrats campaign on that issue? MustLoveBeagles 17 hrs ago #3
Symptom of a bigger issue Lithos 17 hrs ago #5
Yes it is. OldBaldy1701E 4 hrs ago #42
Spot on. Raven123 17 hrs ago #4
So Far Timewas 17 hrs ago #6
Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn 14 hrs ago #25
Yep. My mother won't bank with one of the major American banks because of a grudge related to that. RockRaven 13 hrs ago #31
Same thing happened to my spouse in 1986 Farmer-Rick 2 hrs ago #44
I lived those days Lifeafter70 13 hrs ago #33
BTW StoolPigeon 17 hrs ago #7
Oh right... men have nothing but problems getting a lawyer! ihaveaquestion 16 hrs ago #9
Dear Goddess, it is very disappointing to see that sort of thing on a niyad 15 hrs ago #12
Being a single parent H2O Man 15 hrs ago #19
Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn 14 hrs ago #26
Sounds serious Torchlight 14 hrs ago #28
Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 12 hrs ago #35
And play mommy with benefits to an adult spouse. xuplate 17 hrs ago #8
OMG! After spending all day trying to find the wallet slightlv 15 hrs ago #17
huggggggggs, my friend. Your DU family is here, so lean as hard as niyad 15 hrs ago #21
I feel it for you malaise 14 hrs ago #22
So sorry. paleotn 14 hrs ago #27
We are here for you, V SheltieLover 14 hrs ago #30
If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical 13 hrs ago #32
Thanks... slightlv 10 hrs ago #38
So pleased to hear this Sympthsical 10 hrs ago #40
Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 10 hrs ago #41
A humble suggestion ... if he keeps losing his wallet FakeNoose 2 hrs ago #45
Slightly... CousinIT 2 hrs ago #46
my brother coached the men's company softball team Skittles 16 hrs ago #10
Was watching a comedy routine Nittersing 1 hr ago #48
And then get no credit for either and blamed for everything Tumbulu 15 hrs ago #11
And that is putting it VERY politely. niyad 15 hrs ago #13
Unless you believe the "rumors" that Harris actually won. Which I do. slightlv 15 hrs ago #18
I mean...everyone is. It's just that women, for the most part, picked up the slack for some time, and now are not. WhiskeyGrinder 15 hrs ago #14
As a single father who raised three daughters BeneteauBum 14 hrs ago #24
Thank you so much for including the video link. I will look at it later, niyad 14 hrs ago #29
"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET 12 hrs ago #34
GREAT and VERY TRUE line! Jack Valentino 12 hrs ago #36
"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd 10 hrs ago #39
And society suffers from the epidemic of unparented kids. live love laugh 4 hrs ago #43
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