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BlueWaveNeverEnd

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39. "The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 01:20 AM

8 hrs ago

And men dont get it.

The mental load equals

Kids lunch, school clothes, homework, all the stuff required for school
Meals, groceries for meals
Everything required to run and maintain a home

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"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." [View all] Collimator 15 hrs ago OP

Bookmarked!!! IA8IT 15 hrs ago #1

Most Women sit around watching "A brighter Day" ..polishing their nails... chouchou 15 hrs ago #2

What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity 13 hrs ago #15

A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad 12 hrs ago #16

never heard of it Celerity 12 hrs ago #20

I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad 12 hrs ago #23

One of the ridiculous daytime Dramas that could have wasted one's life away. chouchou 9 hrs ago #37

Will the Democrats campaign on that issue? MustLoveBeagles 15 hrs ago #3

Symptom of a bigger issue Lithos 14 hrs ago #5

Yes it is. OldBaldy1701E 2 hrs ago #42

Spot on. Raven123 14 hrs ago #4

So Far Timewas 14 hrs ago #6

Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn 12 hrs ago #25

Yep. My mother won't bank with one of the major American banks because of a grudge related to that. RockRaven 11 hrs ago #31

Same thing happened to my spouse in 1986 Farmer-Rick 26 min ago #44

I lived those days Lifeafter70 10 hrs ago #33

BTW StoolPigeon 14 hrs ago #7

Oh right... men have nothing but problems getting a lawyer! ihaveaquestion 14 hrs ago #9

Dear Goddess, it is very disappointing to see that sort of thing on a niyad 13 hrs ago #12

Being a single parent H2O Man 12 hrs ago #19

Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn 12 hrs ago #26

Sounds serious Torchlight 11 hrs ago #28

Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 10 hrs ago #35

And play mommy with benefits to an adult spouse. xuplate 14 hrs ago #8

OMG! After spending all day trying to find the wallet slightlv 12 hrs ago #17

huggggggggs, my friend. Your DU family is here, so lean as hard as niyad 12 hrs ago #21

I feel it for you malaise 12 hrs ago #22

So sorry. paleotn 11 hrs ago #27

We are here for you, V SheltieLover 11 hrs ago #30

If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical 11 hrs ago #32

Thanks... slightlv 8 hrs ago #38

So pleased to hear this Sympthsical 7 hrs ago #40

Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 7 hrs ago #41

A humble suggestion ... if he keeps losing his wallet FakeNoose 18 min ago #45

Slightly... CousinIT 2 min ago #46

my brother coached the men's company softball team Skittles 13 hrs ago #10

And then get no credit for either and blamed for everything Tumbulu 13 hrs ago #11

And that is putting it VERY politely. niyad 13 hrs ago #13

Unless you believe the "rumors" that Harris actually won. Which I do. slightlv 12 hrs ago #18

I mean...everyone is. It's just that women, for the most part, picked up the slack for some time, and now are not. WhiskeyGrinder 13 hrs ago #14

As a single father who raised three daughters BeneteauBum 12 hrs ago #24

Thank you so much for including the video link. I will look at it later, niyad 11 hrs ago #29

"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET 10 hrs ago #34

GREAT and VERY TRUE line! Jack Valentino 10 hrs ago #36

"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd 8 hrs ago #39

And society suffers from the epidemic of unparented kids. live love laugh 1 hr ago #43