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70. I went through this with my Mom, too...

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 10:35 PM

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I moved to the city where she lived so I could be close to her, and then ended up just moving her in with us. We kept that up for years until it got to the point she was calling EMS all the time without us knowing about it (nothing like walking into the front room, dressed only in a night time t-shirt to find a bunch of EMTs you weren't expecting!). But I knew my personal caretaking time was over with her when I saw her look at my husband and absolutely not recognize him, tho she'd known him for nearly 30 years. Also, when she'd fall, I couldn't get her up off the floor; the weight difference was too much.

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