35 Years Later My Father Reaches Out.

[Inkfreak]

3. The curiosity factor is very high.

My sister contacted him about 7 years ago and flew down to Tx to meet him. She told me that he said "When he's (me) ready to contact him, he'll be waiting.". Which blew my mind since he's known where I was my whole life. No child support. No ticket to come see him during summers. No contact period. Is to me is why I could not speak to him. The question of "Why?" is/will be on my mind always but I don't think and explanation would do any good. I do not believe there is a valid reason (in this circumstance) that abandoning your children is excusable. My sister and I are worlds apart in thinking and how we live our life. She keeps in contact with him thru Facebook tho we barely speak of it. Imo I don think she got what she was looking for outta him, but that's just me. He is aware of me thru Facebook but I keep all my stuff private so this friend request on my birthday was surprising so many years later.

You mention the damage your wife did to you and I completely understand in way. If my own father wants nothing to do with me growing up, who would want me? This was a prevailing attitude I had, even if I didn't realize it at first. And I believe this had a crippling effect on me as a child and teen. Meeting my wife was a blessing. She's steering me away from that isolation I felt so much as a child. This is the damage he did to me that I do not think I could forgive. I wish I had a father growing up. I don't need one now. I have a wonderful father-in-law who treats me like his own son. And my mother married a man who I respect and look up to greatly after I was already outta the house. Which is too bad cause he woulda been a pretty cool dad.

Thanks for reading and responding to my OP, CC