"Entitlement" to sexual activity in the "patriarchy".

[ProudToBeBlueInRhody]

I hear this term tossed around in GD and other places when it comes to men......frequently during discussions of prostitution.

Wouldn't "entitlement" mean one would not have to pay for sexual pleasure, but just be able to demand and take at any time? If I need to get my car fixed, and I go pay a mechanic to do it, is it because I've decided I'm "entitled", or is it that I need to pay for a service that is being offered by a businessperson?

I find the dismissal of the need for sexual contact through sex surrogates, therapists and courtesans to be actually quite insensitive. There are those who believe women should not be able to offer these services (and these are often "feminists&quot ......and for those who wish to use them to possibly experience sexual contact that they otherwise would not be able to engage in should basically "deal with it". It's those people who I find actually to have a rather disturbing view of sexuality.....that it is all about just using a person as a semen dumpster or some such pleasant colloquialism, as opposed to the idea of enjoying intimate, human, physical touch.....

This bothers me.....I had a rather uncomfortable discussion with a co-worker today......the guy broke down in front of me, and lot of it has to do with the fact that he does not have the tools to have a romantic relationship, and I think it's dawning on him that he never will. I really didn't know what to say, and unlike in other similar situations.....there IS nothing I can say, unless I lie to him just to pump him up a bit.