Tony Porter Ted talk; A call to men.

[Warren DeMontague]

31. So really, to you, this is about porn, and not so much about men being told not to express emotion.

Big surprise. Well, if your intent is to come in here and try to advance, subtle or no, a pro-censorship, anti-sex agenda, you are going to be running smack dab up against the SOP of this group. Consider that your warning.

Beyond that, I believe that people -individuals- should be free to live as authentically as possible. Men- adult, hetero men- are often visually attracted to women. Men do not like to look at naked women because they are "programmed by the Patriarchy" to do it, men do not appreciate and feel physical attraction to attractive naked women because somehow our dads "tell us" to do it. Men don't like to look at naked women because we have been given some allegedly incorrect definition of masculinity.

That is an inane interpretation of reality, frankly. Men like to look at attractive naked women (or gay men like to look at attractive naked men) because it is a NATURAL, HEALTHY OUTGROWTH of human sexuality. Period.

If your brother- I'm trying to follow your post in a linear fashion, and having trouble doing so- if your brother is showing adult movies to a 2 and 4 year old, or "drinking with" them, that sounds to me like a "notify DCFS" situation.

As far as validating kids emotions, I'm in total agreement. But part of validating human experience is also not trying to shut down perfectly natural human desires. The anti-sex zealots and folks who somehow think that nudity and porn are unnatural expressions of some conspiratorial programming and not a simple outgrowth of basic human physiology, would do well to remember that instead of pursuing goofy moralistic crusades.


And the dad who hit the kid with the spoon on his birthday? I'd also file that under child abuse.