Why do we teach girls that they lose something with sex and men that they gain something?

[radicalliberal]

44. "First, you don't know what boasting took place the next day in the [i]girls[/i] locker room, ..."

"... so you don't know who, or the degree to which, anyone was exploited."

Well, you do have a point. I hadn't thought about that. There were social climbing girls at my high school who were pretty on the outside but ugly on the inside. I couldn't stand them. They were vain, stupid, and cruel. I never had any desire to have anything to do with them. I wouldn't have touched them with the proverbial 10-foot pole. To me, having sex with one of them would have been like having sex with Ilsie Koch or Eva Braun. I guess you could say they were the female equivalent of the predatory teenage guys. No doubt they deserved each other.

"Second, being bright, respectable, principled and intellectual are not incompatible with being sexual."

You may have misunderstood me, or I may not have made myself clear -- which is easy to do in a forum on the Internet. But, first of all, let me thank for you complimenting my mother (now deceased ) and my sister. They have meant a lot to me. They were the polar opposite of the social climbing jerks I mentioned above. (Incidentally, when she was in high school, my sister did not observe cliquish social boundaries, but had friends in all of the groups. When a Jewish friend was snubbed by anti-Semitic classmates, my sister protested by wearing a Star of David around her neck at school! )

Of course, they were sexual beings. My sister lost her virginity at the college she attended.

I think I may have made too big a deal out of this. I was simply saying that I respected them because they were principled and intellectual, and I guess their example may have caused me to have a less sexual view of young women my age. (The gal I eventually met and married certainly was/is intellectual, as well as quite principled. I fell in love with her not only because she was pretty, but because she was so smart. ) Don't know if that makes any sense. No, I don't think I was influenced by the feminist movement when I was that young.

I probably have come across as some kind of an oddball. Oh, well, that's because I happen to be one.