I thought it would get better by now. Husband died 2-6 and I still can't sleep and must force

[hlthe2b]

4. I am sorry. I am most certainly no expert and my professional training is not in that area but

I've certainly had my own share of grief over the years--experiencing the crash after the initial numbness (which is apparently quite common) wears off. The latter gets you through whatever horrible period of illness, death, funeral, notifications, people wanting to talk to you, post-financial issues and dealing with belongings-- all of that, but once it wears off. Wow.

I can only tell you what has helped me in every instance, albeit over many months or more. And that is getting outside--by myself and walking, walking, walking, walking--often with beautifully sad music and letting it all out where no one can hear me cry, scream, wail. Even if one is not physically able to do that, being out in nature really helped me and I know some others as well. But, the movement--whatever movement that might be is part of it. Finding purpose helps too--especially if it might directly or indirectly honor the memory of the one lost.

That sounds simplistic and i am sorry if so. But, it has helped me with three wrenching deaths--including the death of a beloved dog who helped get me through the first two human deaths on those long wrenching walks. So, I feel I should suggest it.

Best wishes.