Don't force yourself to "get over it" and anyone who tells you that is clueless. Ignore them!
Everyone grieves in a different way. Sometimes it lasts a lifetime and that is OK. Do not force yourself to "be normal". Do not be hard on yourself either. The process is sort of like "2 steps forward, one step back". Over time it will lessen but it may not seem like it. You will not be functioning normally and you shouldn't be. Don't expect too much from yourself. You'll forget common stuff, you'll be easily distracted, unable to focus, have small accidents, etc. That is normal. Eating, sleeping, everything will be different and this is expected. No matter what you lost (a friendship, a pet, a job, a home, etc) you will be experiencing physical and mental changes. It IS different from depression. Be kind to yourself and do not take on more than you can handle. Perhaps start keeping a journal of what you feel, what you miss, what you enjoy, how you have changed from one hour to the next, .....let it all out, it's good for you!
Grief can last a lifetime and everyone is different. Meryl Streep lost John Cazale in the 1970s and she said she does not want to forget the pain since it is a part of her and her life. She wants to keep the love as well as the pain. It is a part of her.
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