Bereavement

BonnieJW

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29. Its only been about 6 weeks

Thu Mar 19, 2026, 06:22 PM

15 hrs ago

Give yourself a big break

My husband and I were married for 48 years when he suddenly died at 70. No sickness or medical problems, he was just gone when I came home from work one day. We had known each other since I was 17 and he was 19. He took me to my prom.

Lean on your friends. Accept the hugs and concern from your family, especially your kids. Grieve together. Let your neighbors help you. You will be surprised and moved to find how many people want to be there for you.

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I thought it would get better by now. Husband died 2-6 and I still can't sleep and must force [View all] Ziggysmom 17 hrs ago OP

(((((Hugs)))) applegrove 17 hrs ago #1

Hugs back at you! Ziggysmom 15 hrs ago #22

Wishing you peace for your broken heart 💔 Chat wit us..you may be by yourself but you're not alone 🌺 Deuxcents 17 hrs ago #2

Thank you, wishing for peace for the world. Ziggysmom 15 hrs ago #24

I hope it gets easier for you soon. There is no time frame for grief. LoisB 17 hrs ago #3

I am learning a lot from this forum. Was feeling really low today, but now I Ziggysmom 15 hrs ago #25

I am sorry. I am most certainly no expert and my professional training is not in that area but hlthe2b 17 hrs ago #4

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Thank you for sharing. I'm in Wisconsin waiting for the weather to cooperate so I can get out more. Ziggysmom 15 hrs ago #30

If you are physically up to it, cross country skiing on public golf courses in winter is another hlthe2b 15 hrs ago #32

Sunlight on the eyes IbogaProject 2 min ago #74

Understandable blm 17 hrs ago #5

Contact your local hospice for bereavement counseling SheltieLover 17 hrs ago #6

I joined a hospice group when my dad died Tree Lady 15 hrs ago #28

Yes, groups are incredibly powerful! SheltieLover 15 hrs ago #39

It's still very, very early. And grief is very different than depression. I know it's really Scrivener7 17 hrs ago #7

Prayed for you. Grief is painful. Joinfortmill 17 hrs ago #8

Buy a marble cover composition book and journal it out bucolic_frolic 17 hrs ago #10

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I lost my son a little over 4 years ago crimycarny 16 hrs ago #11

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I swear if I heard "you're so strong" one more time crimycarny 14 hrs ago #59

One of my friends lost a child to suicide Marthe48 1 hr ago #71

Second the motion EuterpeThelo 1 hr ago #69

Be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack. Grief never just goes away, it just Marie Marie 16 hrs ago #12

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. Diamond_Dog 16 hrs ago #13

It's too soon Lulu KC 16 hrs ago #14

Ziggysmom... dlilafae 16 hrs ago #15

When my fiance died suddenly in his early 30s, I walked the same trail every day for a year. femmedem 16 hrs ago #16

Grieve is a journey. traveler50 16 hrs ago #17

It is difficult to move on. A lttle over a month is pretty fast. Fla Dem 16 hrs ago #18

I am so terribly sorry. Trueblue Texan 16 hrs ago #19

DU Hug!!! Ponietz 16 hrs ago #20

I can't even imagine how it feels Tesha 15 hrs ago #21

I almost completely stopped eating for 3 years cpamomfromtexas 15 hrs ago #23

Grief is a very personal process BigmanPigman 15 hrs ago #26

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❤️ underpants 15 hrs ago #27

Its only been about 6 weeks BonnieJW 15 hrs ago #29

Sending a virtual hug Tree Lady 15 hrs ago #31

(((gentle hug))) 🫂 mwmisses4289 15 hrs ago #33

Everything's harder in this environment. yellow dahlia 15 hrs ago #34

Hey Ziggysmom! Once again I realize just how VALUABLE this place is. calimary 15 hrs ago #35

I'd so sorry for your loss kimbutgar 15 hrs ago #38

"" AllaN01Bear 15 hrs ago #40

THANK YOU EVERYONE! Everyone will experience grief in their lifetime. It should not be Ziggysmom 15 hrs ago #42

hitthe2b is right, go outside Figarosmom 15 hrs ago #43

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope 15 hrs ago #44

Huggggggs, my friend and please be kind and gentle and loving niyad 15 hrs ago #45

Oh my dear Ziggysmom, My heart hurts for you as you are inching your way through this journey that was suddenly thrust KitFox 15 hrs ago #46

My deepest condolences to you. I share Hassler 15 hrs ago #47

I lost my wife of 40 years three years ago. kairos12 15 hrs ago #48

I'm sorry you are going through this Danmel 14 hrs ago #49

I am sorry for what you are gooing through and hope that you find some solace with it all soon. marked50 14 hrs ago #50

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom... Bayard 14 hrs ago #51

It took me 7 years to feel better synni 14 hrs ago #52

Dear Ziggysmom, here is what helped me when my beloved died in October. MLAA 14 hrs ago #53

.... chowder66 14 hrs ago #54

you're being too hard on yourself Skittles 14 hrs ago #55

I am so sorry. BlueKota 14 hrs ago #56

Two of the very best ways to deal with grief for me, JMCKUSICK 14 hrs ago #57

This community is here for you. Moostache 14 hrs ago #58

{{ Hugs }} EKR's books helped me understand the physical component of grief GreatGazoo 13 hrs ago #60

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. highplainsdem 13 hrs ago #61

That's not that long malaise 12 hrs ago #62

Hugs my friend. Dunc 7 hrs ago #63

lost my hubby almost two years ago. SleeplessinSoCal 4 hrs ago #64

it is only a month. give it time. rampartd 2 hrs ago #65

Last night I was watching a documentary about Jane Austen mnhtnbb 2 hrs ago #66

I hope you find some peace and comfort JoseBalow 2 hrs ago #67

Oh, Ziggysmom EuterpeThelo 1 hr ago #68

Sending you love gademocrat7 1 hr ago #70

My husband died in 2017 Marthe48 40 min ago #72

My wife died 9/17/25 TexLaProgressive 13 min ago #73

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you love in a difficult time. 58Sunliner 2 min ago #75