Like with depression, people who tell you to get over it, or move on with your life, are totally clueless. They've obviously never experienced this kind of loss.
Just a few things to think about that helped me when I lost my big brother. He had been my hero, and best friend since I was little. I took back up two things that I used to do, and really enjoyed, but gotten away from. The first was oil painting. I turned out some dark subjects during that time, but it absorbed and calmed me.
The second thing--I started riding again. I came across a woman that boarded a horse right down the road from me, that she didn't have a lot of time for. Free lease. Very, very therapeutic, and I eventually bought my own horse. Animals are the best listeners in the world.
Finally, I started writing down everything I could remember about my brother in a little book. Many smiles through the tears.
What do you enjoy doing? Gardening? Walking? Spring is here. Love cats or dogs? Can you volunteer at a local shelter to do nothing but go in and pet needy, lonely animals. It can be so soothing for you and them.
I still grieve for my brother after 30 years, and now, the rest of my family that are gone. Holidays are pretty tough, and I still get depressed every year. DU is a life saver! I met my best friend, Duppers, on here many years ago. You always have friends here, day or night.
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