Bereavement

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76. It will get better

Fri Mar 20, 2026, 10:14 AM

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My husband is gone ten years now and I still remember the shock and grief of those first months. You never really get over it, but you do kind of get used to it. Cling tight to friends and family.

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I thought it would get better by now. Husband died 2-6 and I still can't sleep and must force [View all] Ziggysmom 23 hrs ago OP

(((((Hugs)))) applegrove 23 hrs ago #1

Hugs back at you! Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago #22

Wishing you peace for your broken heart 💔 Chat wit us..you may be by yourself but you're not alone 🌺 Deuxcents 23 hrs ago #2

Thank you, wishing for peace for the world. Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago #24

I hope it gets easier for you soon. There is no time frame for grief. LoisB 23 hrs ago #3

I am learning a lot from this forum. Was feeling really low today, but now I Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago #25

I am sorry. I am most certainly no expert and my professional training is not in that area but hlthe2b 23 hrs ago #4

This sounds like it would be very helpful. Joinfortmill 23 hrs ago #9

Thank you for sharing. I'm in Wisconsin waiting for the weather to cooperate so I can get out more. Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago #30

If you are physically up to it, cross country skiing on public golf courses in winter is another hlthe2b 21 hrs ago #32

Sunlight on the eyes IbogaProject 5 hrs ago #74

When my partner died back in 2011... pat_k 3 hrs ago #82

I remember Senator... I somehow missed his inclusion in the "Memoriam" page for 2011 so hlthe2b 2 hrs ago #84

Understandable blm 23 hrs ago #5

Contact your local hospice for bereavement counseling SheltieLover 23 hrs ago #6

I joined a hospice group when my dad died Tree Lady 21 hrs ago #28

Yes, groups are incredibly powerful! SheltieLover 21 hrs ago #39

It's still very, very early. And grief is very different than depression. I know it's really Scrivener7 23 hrs ago #7

Prayed for you. Grief is painful. Joinfortmill 23 hrs ago #8

Buy a marble cover composition book and journal it out bucolic_frolic 23 hrs ago #10

Thank you. My daughter has polycystic kidney disease and Dr. Bergs keto diet really helps Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago #36

I lost my son a little over 4 years ago crimycarny 22 hrs ago #11

Those two words said it all. GRIEF ILLITERATE. We get three whole days of bereavement leave Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago #41

I swear if I heard "you're so strong" one more time crimycarny 19 hrs ago #59

One of my friends lost a child to suicide Marthe48 7 hrs ago #71

Second the motion EuterpeThelo 7 hrs ago #69

Be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack. Grief never just goes away, it just Marie Marie 22 hrs ago #12

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. Diamond_Dog 22 hrs ago #13

It's too soon Lulu KC 22 hrs ago #14

Ziggysmom... dlilafae 22 hrs ago #15

When my fiance died suddenly in his early 30s, I walked the same trail every day for a year. femmedem 22 hrs ago #16

Grieve is a journey. traveler50 22 hrs ago #17

It is difficult to move on. A lttle over a month is pretty fast. Fla Dem 22 hrs ago #18

I am so terribly sorry. Trueblue Texan 22 hrs ago #19

DU Hug!!! Ponietz 21 hrs ago #20

I can't even imagine how it feels Tesha 21 hrs ago #21

I almost completely stopped eating for 3 years cpamomfromtexas 21 hrs ago #23

Grief is a very personal process BigmanPigman 21 hrs ago #26

Good thoughts and advice. yellow dahlia 21 hrs ago #37

❤️ underpants 21 hrs ago #27

Its only been about 6 weeks BonnieJW 21 hrs ago #29

Sending a virtual hug Tree Lady 21 hrs ago #31

(((gentle hug))) 🫂 mwmisses4289 21 hrs ago #33

Everything's harder in this environment. yellow dahlia 21 hrs ago #34

Hey Ziggysmom! Once again I realize just how VALUABLE this place is. calimary 21 hrs ago #35

I'd so sorry for your loss kimbutgar 21 hrs ago #38

"" AllaN01Bear 21 hrs ago #40

THANK YOU EVERYONE! Everyone will experience grief in their lifetime. It should not be Ziggysmom 21 hrs ago #42

hitthe2b is right, go outside Figarosmom 21 hrs ago #43

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope 21 hrs ago #44

Huggggggs, my friend and please be kind and gentle and loving niyad 21 hrs ago #45

Oh my dear Ziggysmom, My heart hurts for you as you are inching your way through this journey that was suddenly thrust KitFox 21 hrs ago #46

My deepest condolences to you. I share Hassler 21 hrs ago #47

I lost my wife of 40 years three years ago. kairos12 21 hrs ago #48

I'm sorry you are going through this Danmel 20 hrs ago #49

I am sorry for what you are gooing through and hope that you find some solace with it all soon. marked50 20 hrs ago #50

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom... Bayard 20 hrs ago #51

It took me 7 years to feel better synni 20 hrs ago #52

Dear Ziggysmom, here is what helped me when my beloved died in October. MLAA 20 hrs ago #53

.... chowder66 20 hrs ago #54

you're being too hard on yourself Skittles 20 hrs ago #55

I am so sorry. BlueKota 20 hrs ago #56

Two of the very best ways to deal with grief for me, JMCKUSICK 20 hrs ago #57

This community is here for you. Moostache 20 hrs ago #58

{{ Hugs }} EKR's books helped me understand the physical component of grief GreatGazoo 19 hrs ago #60

I'm so sorry, Ziggysmom. highplainsdem 19 hrs ago #61

That's not that long malaise 18 hrs ago #62

Hugs my friend. Dunc 13 hrs ago #63

lost my hubby almost two years ago. SleeplessinSoCal 10 hrs ago #64

it is only a month. give it time. rampartd 8 hrs ago #65

Last night I was watching a documentary about Jane Austen mnhtnbb 8 hrs ago #66

I hope you find some peace and comfort JoseBalow 8 hrs ago #67

Oh, Ziggysmom EuterpeThelo 7 hrs ago #68

Sending you love gademocrat7 7 hrs ago #70

My husband died in 2017 Marthe48 6 hrs ago #72

My wife died 9/17/25 TexLaProgressive 6 hrs ago #73

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you love in a difficult time. 58Sunliner 5 hrs ago #75

It will get better spinbaby 5 hrs ago #76

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and I am concerned over your struggle dealing with that loss. ... marble falls 5 hrs ago #77

One foot in front of the other foot. The pain is real no doubt but just "doing things" Will help. Botany 5 hrs ago #78

I am so sorry for your loss. It took me over 4 years to feel "normal" again after my husbands death. maptap22 4 hrs ago #79

There is no timeline for grief dlk 4 hrs ago #80

It will be nine years next month, and I still get tears in my eyes when a certain song comes on tavernier 3 hrs ago #81

Been there, done that and a word of caution. Momma 2 hrs ago #83

Sending a big hug Wild blueberry 1 hr ago #85