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In reply to the discussion: What I learned today on DU: [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)120. This strong feminist voice was hardly a man-hater
Of all the lies told about feminists, one that always made me particularly angry and sad is the claim that Dworkin and by extension, any woman with a similar critique of men's violence hated men. Dworkin's prolific and powerful writings, particularly her critique of pornography, made her a target for some of the ugliest attacks leveled against any feminist over the past four decades, and the label man-hater was at the center of the campaign to marginalize her and her ideas.
how many times was i called a man hater yesterday. lmfao. thank you dworkin.
I am a man who has read all of Dworkin's books, and here is how it looks to me: I don't think she hated men. I think she loved us. I think Andrea Dworkin loved men because she loved people, and men are people men are human beings no matter how hard we sometimes seem to want to prove otherwise by our behavior.
"I don't believe rape is inevitable or natural. If I did, I would have no reason to be here. If I did, my political practice would be different than it is. Have you ever wondered why we [women] are not just in armed combat against you? It's not because theres a shortage of kitchen knives in this country. It is because we believe in your humanity, against all the evidence."
Dworkin wanted to help men claim our humanity, not just for our sake but because she wanted to stop men's violence against women. She wanted an end to the harassment, rape, battery, child sexual assault. And she knew that required men to change, to save ourselves. In that same speech, she challenged men to take that responsibility:
"[Women] do not want to do the work of helping you to believe in your humanity. We cannot do it anymore. We have always tried. We have been repaid with systematic exploitation and systematic abuse. You are going to have to do this yourselves from now on and you know it."
"I don't believe rape is inevitable or natural. If I did, I would have no reason to be here. If I did, my political practice would be different than it is. Have you ever wondered why we [women] are not just in armed combat against you? It's not because theres a shortage of kitchen knives in this country. It is because we believe in your humanity, against all the evidence."
Dworkin wanted to help men claim our humanity, not just for our sake but because she wanted to stop men's violence against women. She wanted an end to the harassment, rape, battery, child sexual assault. And she knew that required men to change, to save ourselves. In that same speech, she challenged men to take that responsibility:
"[Women] do not want to do the work of helping you to believe in your humanity. We cannot do it anymore. We have always tried. We have been repaid with systematic exploitation and systematic abuse. You are going to have to do this yourselves from now on and you know it."
evil woman that she is. and so fuckin right on. and having men and boys i love, exactly what i have been saying for years. ya. a dworkinite here.
thanks x for kicking my ass in to finding out what the quote meant.
edit to add. this was another favorite talking dworkin. jensen.
http://www.andreadworkin.net/memorial/jenson.html
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uplifting messages, no matter how positive, should be suspect if backed by a shampoo company
LanternWaste
Dec 2013
#5
where did you see this revere call: the feminists are comin', the feminist are comin'.... lol
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#11
i learned i could say happy holiday to a fellow duer i have been battlin' with for a long long time,
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#8
Dammit! You guys never send me the memo. Who are we at war with? I don't even know where to go!
Squinch
Dec 2013
#22
That if I think a school are right to enforce their regulations on inappropriate touching
KitSileya
Dec 2013
#33
because boys will be boys? would that be the 6 yr old kissing? i didnt go into the thread.
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#34
bah hahaha. and me? i am waaaay tired of this not thinking thru that creates a world of hurt for
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#52
To be honest, tho, I think the lack of replies were because there was no disagreement
KitSileya
Dec 2013
#61
here you go. a definition of radical fem. see how very radical it is. like it is an insult.
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#37
yup. but forget the actual definition. remember, we are working with people here that REdefine
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#39
i kept getting insulted being called radical. looked it up and was all over.... wha? that is
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#41
It's funny how hard some people work to push that radfem = transphobe shit, isn't it?
redqueen
Dec 2013
#60
you mean the mens group obsession? and they just want to get people worked up to get women kicked
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#63
we didnt even know about the damn waves 2 yrs ago. we had to educate ourselves fast,
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#53
yup. saw and gonna read in a bit. i am an odd gus, how i go about reading OPs. lol. but,
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#57
what i learned, stepping into 6 yr old boy thread. the same people that tell us it is cool buying
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#81
having two boys, i would adamently say that the progressive behavior of harassment is anything close
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#85
and more than one are attacking the mother and little girl. starting early blaming the victim.
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#103
"they side so willingly with Fox News spin" i totally recognize that hypocrisy... but,
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#110
huh. are you allowed to be gay? or does that make you a genderist. only having sex with
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#89
i personally do not like trash. i have always stayed away from it. i even have the boys take
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#91
Today I learned that Cathy Brennan is the leader of de eeebul dangerius radfems!
redqueen
Dec 2013
#96
Today I learned that correcting a lie is the same thing as caring about the person used to smear
redqueen
Dec 2013
#111
and dealing with the bullies ended up meaning being fired. so in essence, shut the fuck up. yes...
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#112
yes. thank you for the clarification. i totally get that, agree and have seen it myself. nt
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#128
flynts own words, 3 yrs. these women have three years and his industry chews them up and spits them
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#118
oh, and this is also the man we hale as the hero of liberals and cheer him, when he sticks a dick in
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#122
i heard... NAACP.. "all help to keep the notion of "inequality" alive and well." so i said
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#124
and a 6 yr old must go in front of a camera and tell the word if she was good with the kiss or just
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#126
I get that individual victims might not want to think of themselves that way.
redqueen
Dec 2013
#139
i learned the mens group new meme for us is we are fucking emotionally DAMAGED..... this is
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#144
arrogant, condescending fuckin bullshit. how many women hang with men that do that
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#145
i got it fuckin just now. and it wasnt me of course, that would be others in the thread. like
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#149
well. that is a real duh. but when does reality matter when creating a caricature to shut you up
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#151
ranting thru the house, trying to shut me up telling me i am emotionally damaged.... lol
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#152
'damaged goods'... thank you. THAT. THAT is what it feels like when i read it in the mens group
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#153
good post ism. i hear ya and if i suffered any damage, (i had the easy life) it si not messin with
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#161
The truth of the matter is it is just fucking rude, mean, and a powerplay.
boston bean
Dec 2013
#164
i dunno BB. if you think a person is "emotionally damaged" wouldnt you play nice? i would. nt
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#165
This. This. This. Whether or not anyone is personally hurt or offended is beside the point.
redqueen
Dec 2013
#158
you. after we play out the emotional damage shit. cause you do it so well.... nt
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#166
alert. everyone alert. skinner will get them all and read what we have to say. misogyny and
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#172
People who are on the receiving end of microaggressions are overly sensitive.
gollygee
Dec 2013
#169
never golly.... welll, they did hide a couple that were nothing. now, diss women, thumbs up.
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#173