"Feminists are not responsible for educating men"

[qazplm]

102. eh, from my pov

it's the responsibility of all humans to try and help other humans, with knowledge, or understanding, or education.

So we all have a "job" of trying to better the world, and since most of us aren't going to write a book, or run for office, that usually boils down to human and interpersonal interactions, one on one, and it usually doesn't involve speaking to the choir.

That conversation that you thought was a waste of time and didn't get through, sometimes percolates, and resonates, and then bears fruit without you ever knowing it.

"real change" happens slowly and incrementally and, often, in person to person interactions that slowly change perceptions.
The idea that "real men" must prove themselves before that interaction doesn't make any sense to me. If someone is engaging you on a subject, then there's at least some element of openness there, even if they seem antagonistic or unopen.