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11. It's called trauma, Lucky

Thu Jul 16, 2026, 03:24 PM

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It doesn't matter if a professional is younger than you. They're qualified to put you in a professional setting and help stabilize your nervous system.
It's time to reach out to either one.

I believe that you would make a great foster parent once you manage this trauma. You would help save a life while preparing an animal for adoption.

Think of all the stress relief that you and a foster "child" could exchange to each other. Shelters are a stressful environment.

You already have compassion in your heart so something to think about in the future. I'm not attempting to force you to do anything, just something to consider.

It also helps to vent.

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This is so bad. [View all] LuckyCharms Yesterday OP

Venting is good Lucky...it's a release... MiHale Yesterday #1

It's definitely normal to feel intense grief, especially now biophile Yesterday #2

Venting is healthy. 🫂 hugs. Srkdqltr Yesterday #3

When/if you feel able, might it help to volunteer at a shelter? 3catwoman3 Yesterday #4

These are tough times to live through now, Hey Joe Yesterday #5

❣️ littlemissmartypants Yesterday #6

I'd Adopt justaprogressive Yesterday #7

The fear of... 2naSalit Yesterday #8

This. PittBlue Yesterday #9

I've had dozens SuzyandPuffpuff Yesterday #10

It's called trauma, Lucky Niagara Yesterday #11

I do hope it gets easier for you. Grief is mysterious; there is no "normal". LoisB Yesterday #12

Losing our beloved pets is up there with the worst things that ever happens to people commonly AZJonnie Yesterday #13

i am so sorry for your loss. cksmithy Yesterday #14

When my heart dog, Alex the most handsome prince of north Columbus passed, it was in the era of yahoo groups irisblue Yesterday #15

I am so sorry for your loss. Susan Calvin Yesterday #16

Maybe go spend some time with an understanding friend who owns a dog? FakeNoose Yesterday #17

So sorry for your pain Tree Lady Yesterday #18

I don't know your age or your location, but I wonder if... 1WorldHope Yesterday #19

That's a lot of people (in my book dogs, cats, etc. are people too) blue_jay Yesterday #20

Nothing not normal here. You have to feel the grief to get through it. Tears cleanse. PatrickforB 23 hrs ago #21

Your vessel will see you through this turbulence and any storms arising LuvLoogie 23 hrs ago #22

Would your vet be able to recommend a therapist? Marthe48 23 hrs ago #23

My mother died 22 years ago at 86, tired of being ill and ready to go. My poodle Ally, at nine, wasn't ready to go. Bumbles 22 hrs ago #24