It's a rural school district in N.J. Grandson is 11. Daughter gets a call from the guidance counselor that

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6. He called her a name to insult her

He would likely have been fine if not for that word. Regardless of whatever voodoo nonsense she was spouting, as long as she didn't call him a name and he called her one, she could call him out for it. No way the girl was going to let a heathen arguing about God with her get away with that.

Chat gpt says:

In this context, the word is a sophisticated but very harsh insult. Using "grotesque" instead of a common word like "ugly" suggests the child is trying to be intentionally cutting, using a "big word" to maximize the impact and make the other child feel truly "monstrous" or repulsive.

My final thought:
If it happens again at school, he should tell on her immediately for harassing him about his religious beliefs. Then follow up to see if it was reported and added to her file.

Girl was preaching to my son on the bus about Jesus rising from the dead. He said that meant Jesus was a zombie. She lost it, called him all sorts of things lol. They were in first or second grade. She literally wouldn't associate with him again. Thank God.